How to be more paitent while waiting to TTC

[PengAly]

I will try and not make this too long... So, both DH and I have always known we wanted kids and a family. Been married for 1.5 years but together for 5 years. We recently bought our own home, have stable jobs(granted DH could do with a higher salary but we do fine) and are in a good place relationship wise. I've always known I wanted to be a mother and for the last 2 years been quite broody with my feelings only getting stronger now. DH and I have decided to start TTC around end of this year. This was our compromise as he wanted to wait until next summer.
I'll be 27 and he is 30. Our reasons for waiting until then are:
-Recently moved house so want more time to settle in
-Save some more money, DH to possibly get a high paid job
-I recently came off the pill so need my cycles to regulate

I know its sensible to not start right now but the urge is so high and I can't help feeling scared it make take us a long time! (I've only had 2 periods since November when I came of the pill but I know it can take some women awhile).
Can anyone just reassure me that waiting 6 more months is really not a big deal and I'm still young enough to have 2 kids? Also how can I not drive my self crazy waiting?

Sorry that should say higher* paid job not High

Anyone?

Hello, didn't want to read and run.

Will have to type quick as need to head back to work. I waited about 6 months before coming off the pill. It will fly by.

It gives your body a chance to recalibrate and it will give you and your husband time to enjoy your new house.

I am 27, and will be 28 on 12/08 and my first baby is due in 26/08. My husband will be 36. We feel the time is right for us.

I started tracking my BBT to give me an idea on when my AF would arrive as the waiting around wondering if I were pregnant or not was doing my head in! So maybe take these 6 months to really get in tune with your cycle so you know when you will be most fertile.

What method of contraception (if you don't mind me asking) are you going to be waiting between now and then?

Just please remember it can take a while to fall pregnant so don't become disheartened x

Thank you for the reply! Its making me so anxious that my period has not come since January. Came off the pill in Nov. Had 2 normal periods and then nothing so my body is taking some time to adjust and ive done pregnancy tests just incase, which they are negative. We are just using condoms now.
I think part of me being so impatient is because im aware it could take a long time but your advice is great and im going to start checking for ovulation as an indicator for my periods

Hi, I could have wrote this myself. Last year we agreed to wait until this summer to start trying. We wanted to have a good head start with cash so we could have a holiday or two while on maternity and I'd just started a new job. We will be starting to try in the next couple of months and honestly it's flown by. I came off the pill a year ago and my period has only just became regular in the last few months. It'll fly by, I've just concentrated on saving hard. It'll be here before you know it x

Hi PengAly

You are definitely young enough to have two children so try not to panic about that. I've read recommendations to take folic acid for 3 months before trying so you've got time to do that. Also, as @Snowflake9 said, it's a good chance to start tracking your cycle and symptoms of ovulation so you know what to look for once you do start ttc. Good luck!

Thank you! Yes, it does make sense for us to wait until end of this year. But its so hard to ignore that broody feeling! I was actually feeling great in January as id thought i had a regular cycle and was happy waiting but then by end of feb when my period didnt come and we did a pregnancy test that was a BFN which kick started the broodiness again and then ive been an anxious mess while waiting for AF :( GP said it can take women a little while to get back to normal after the pill so just got to keep it at the back of my mind...

Write a bucket list of things to do before you get a bfp!!
Llama trekking!!
Wild woods camping!!
Ice skating!!
Track day!!
Horse riding lessons!!
Decorate your home!!

Llama trekking!! this one may be a tad unrealistic but i like your thought process 😂 we do have a little UK holiday planned in the summer with our dog so thats something to look forward to!

I had a similar "wait six months" agreement when I was raring to go! One thing you can do to feel like you're doing something is start taking folic acid and improving your diet, as it's meant to be good to have got going on that before TTC. And definitely look out for signs of ovulation as your body adjusts to coming off the pill, so you can go to your GP early if things don't seem to have regulated after six months.

Otherwise, try not to think about it – you can become obsessive enough when actually trying (especially if you go down the charting temperature, OPK stick, timed intercourse route), enjoy this interlude of shagging just for fun! Find a project to focus on – home improvements (things with stinky chemicals or heavy lifting that you won't be able to do when pregnant), the garden, writing a novel, running a marathon.

especially if you go down the charting temperature, OPK stick, timed intercourse route)

Honestly, im hoping not to go down this road as my anxiety wont be able to take it! Our plan is to just lose the condoms and dtd 3-4 times a week and just see how it goes. I MAY track my ovulation but not sure yet.

Me and dh went as a wedding gift off my dc!! In Yorkshire, was amazing fun!!

I understand your unwillingness to track ovulation because of anxiety. I was the same, didn't want to become obsessed. However when you are waiting for your period and you think "it's normally 30 days why isn't it here? Shall I test? Oh it's negative then where is my period" and the cycle continues until AF shows up, that stressed me out loads. I didn't feel in control at all. However some months I just ovulated later so was expecting AF on say 10dpo when in fact she was 4 days early . Hope this makes sense xx