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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Made myself infertile

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125678katie · 17/03/2019 21:20

Had an abortion last year. Now ttc properly for 7 months and nothing. I think I’ve destroyed my fertility I feel so stupid

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bitheby · 17/03/2019 21:30

I think that's incredibly unlikely. I'm sure several people who know more than I do will come along soon to reassure you.

LovingLola · 17/03/2019 21:40

I agree it’s very unlikely
When was the termination? Would you go to your GP for advice and support ?

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125678katie · 17/03/2019 21:48

In May. I have and 2 gps just laughed it off and said I’d be fine and won’t do tests to reassure me

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cargghhh · 17/03/2019 21:49

I had an abortion when I was 18. Quite far along as well. I now have a 1 year old boy and pregnant with my second.

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125678katie · 17/03/2019 21:53

@cargghhh can I ask how long you tried for?

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PlasticPatty · 17/03/2019 21:58

Don't panic. I knew someone who had five abortions and went on to have children later. My own mother, I believe, had three abortions before me and my brother, and that was in the 1940s-1950s.

See your GP again, just in case. Have you had psychological help to deal with having had the termination? That might help.

Don't blame yourself, either way. You did what you thought was best/all you could do at the time.

KMoKMo · 17/03/2019 21:59

It’s incredibly unlikely an abortion caused infertility. Worrying about it will not be helping. Do you have people you can talk to? Would you consider counselling?

cargghhh · 17/03/2019 21:59

@125678katie sure, I had my implant taken out, had to wait 2 months for a withdrawal period then it took another 4 months to get pregnant with my son. We haven't been on any contraception since my son was born so has taken 12 months but I am still breastfeeding so that stopped my periods for a while x

TooManyGlasses · 17/03/2019 22:02

Hello, I shouldn’t think you have, seven months isn’t all that long when TTC, though it can feel like it at the time, the waiting is awful.

It took between six and twelve months to conceive each of my two children. After six months of trying for the second one, the GP said I shouldn’t worry and should come back if nothing had happened after 12 months. By which time I was pregnant!

BUT I used an ovulation test kit from Boots which made me realise we’d been having sex at the “wrong” times. I got pregnant in the second month of using the kit. It was about £20 but really worth it.

Good luck OP, you sound very down but I’m sure it’ll come right in the end. Just keep trying if you’re sure this is the right thing for you now.

SoozC · 17/03/2019 22:20

7 months isn't that long, although I appreciate it feels like it. It's very normal for a healthy couple to take a year to conceive. Do try not to worry yourself too much at the moment, which I know is hard. If after a year you're not pregnant, your GP can schedule tests (6 months if you're over 35). It just takes some people longer sometimes, whether it's their first pregnancy or not. Just keep trying and good luck.

peachgreen · 17/03/2019 22:26

I had a ERPC (same operation as a surgical abortion) after a missed miscarriage. It took almost a year to conceive my daughter and I was convinced it was because I'd opted for surgical management instead of letting things happen naturally and I'd made myself infertile. I hadn't, and nor have you. I know it feels like forever but 7 months isn't abnormally long. Keep going.

tisonlymeagain · 17/03/2019 22:28

I know where this fear is coming from but honestly I'm sure everything is fine. I had an abortion at 17 and now have two children. Complications are pretty rare.

Fuppy · 18/03/2019 05:06

No abortions personally but my fist took 1 month to conceive, my second took 2 years.

7 months feels like forever, but with TTC it's not.

GP told me this:
If you have other symptoms that require them to check ovaries then they'll send you for an ultrasound to check.

Otherwise you have to be TTC for 2+ years to be referred for fertility treatment or be almost 40+
ALSO, you have to be a non smoker, and a normal BMI before referral.

Also, if you're with the same man I'm not 100% on this being fact but, I heard you don't get much help if you've previously conceived naturally.

Myfoolishboatisleaning · 18/03/2019 05:18

How would a termination cause infertility? Listen to your doctors, they know far more than you.

peachgreen · 18/03/2019 09:12

@Fuppy That's not the case in every area. I was referred after one year of trying and my BMI is high. (I fell pregnant naturally right before my appointment!)

Birdie6 · 18/03/2019 09:15

I took 4 years to conceive my first, and 5 years for my second. I hadn't had an abortion . To be honest, I'd have been thrilled to get pregnant after 7 months . Don't beat yourself up - abortion doesn't cause infertility.

Fuppy · 18/03/2019 11:13

@peachgreen how long ago was your advice?

peachgreen · 18/03/2019 13:17

DD is now one, so less than 2 years ago.

Fuppy · 19/03/2019 19:36

Maybe a few factors involved with help then, my advice was mid last year. Could be different in different areas, age or change in guidelines due to dates. Best to clarify with your own GP.

Girlsmumma2 · 19/03/2019 22:47

Oh hunny, please don’t beat yourself up, you won’t have made yourself infertile listen to your doctors, Just try and relax and it will happen :-)

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