dh changing mind, help! :(

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Well, after TTC for 12 months now and every test except hsg has been done to me, he has low but not terribly low count, dh is not talking about it anymore. He's not sure now that he wants one we don't have any together and I just turned 39, I am deadset after this whole year on having a child, I'm afraid if it doesn't happen soon and if he wont go with me for some help that I may leave him. I can't accept not having a child and I think it is selfish of him to make the decision for the both of us, this isn't love to me. He completely refuses to talk about it anymore Basically, if it doesn't happen naturally, he will do nothing to make it happen Not sure after 12 months of trying, it will ever happen naturally....so depressed, af came today on top of it been crying all day...

Big hugs!!
There is big male ego issues at stake for him here. His "manhood" is being questioned - which rightly or wrongly - is something men are crap at handling.
Men also go into their caves to deal with big issues and its bloody hard to wait by the cave mouth to find out what the decision has become but we need to do it.

Does he know how serious this is for you? That this could be a make or break moment for the relationship? If not, you need to make it clear to him somehow. Won't be easy.

Maybe you could get more info for him, and let him know what it would involve of him - is there some sort of support group for men out there?

Good luck and again, big hugs.

M