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I am losing my mind

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BFPhopeful2019 · 04/03/2019 23:13

So I had a very short period last week. Two days spotting, one light/ medium flow day and one light day. I still feel different, a heaviness in the lower abdomen, tender breasts, exhausted, irritable. For some reason I keep poas, despite last week’s AF, just to see a BFN. I feel so silly, I know I’m not pregnant but for some reason keep convincing myself that I am having symptoms. Why is it so hard? Please someone tell me I am not alone in being this ridiculous!

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Mymedusa24 · 05/03/2019 03:34

@BFPhopeful2019 You are definitely not alone! I found myself going a little crazy obsessing over it all for a little while too.. I had to give it back to the lord.. He knows our hearts and hears our prayers, Trust in Him.

Kinsters · 05/03/2019 03:39

You're not alone! I found it helpful to chart my temperature because then I could see my temperature falling and staying low after my period and have that physical daily evidence that I wasn't pregnant. Like for me if my temperature is above 36.5 I'm pretty sure I'm in the TWW (or pregnant!), once it drops below 36.4 I know I'm waiting to ovulate and definitely not pregnant.

Some people find charting more stressful than not charting though so do what works for you.

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BFPhopeful2019 · 05/03/2019 06:22

Thank-you both. I think temperature monitoring would be good for me, stop me wasting money on expensive tests.

I have faith and know that I will fall preganany when I am supposed to. Just a difficult wait. I spent my life focusing on getting my career where it needs to be and for it not to happen immediately has been a shock!

Thanks both again.

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Explorers10 · 05/03/2019 10:00

@BFPhopeful2019

I know the feeling I’ve also waited due to my career but now I feel I left it too late and wished I focused more on family than job! How old are you? I know I’m also in shock it’s not happened yet. I’m on cycle 4. What cycle are you on?

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BFPhopeful2019 · 05/03/2019 10:03

I’m 31 on cycle 4 too so I know it is relatively early days. I’m worried as my mother had all of her children young, but her last at 31. She wanted more children after her last but she never fell pregnant again.

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BFPhopeful2019 · 05/03/2019 10:04

How old are you? Careers are a strange thing aren’t they?! All we want is to have it all!

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Explorers10 · 05/03/2019 10:10

I’m 34. My mum also had us all young and the last at 30. I do have 1 daughter when I was 31 and got pregnant straight away at 1st cycle but feel I should have tried to have another one close together! But too focused on career and didn’t realise it be hard to get pregnant 2nd time round. Cycle 4 does feel a long time doesn’t it, I know it isn’t and everyone on here has said to just keep trying and it’s early days

Explorers10 · 05/03/2019 10:11

I’m hopeful that you will they you BFP soon! I’m trying to relax and be positive

Mymedusa24 · 05/03/2019 13:25

Mark 11:24 Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.
Abraham and Sarah has children way after the time they were supposed to conceive.
We can life and death with our words. Don’t let doubt have any place in your hearts. He told us we only have to believe. ❤️
@BFPhopeful2019 @Explorers10
Both of you are not past your time to conceive. I believe both of you will!
Psalm 121:1-2 I lift up my eyes to the hills. From where does my help come? My help comes from the LORD, who made heaven and earth.
I only hope to encourage both of you.. living in Him is a life full of blessings.
The more we give to Him, the more He can give to us.. stay blessed! Smile

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BFPhopeful2019 · 05/03/2019 17:12

@explorers10 I’m sure we will both get our BFP soon but I am definitely in that boat of ‘wished I had tried a little sooner’

@mymedusa24 thank-you :-) I am sure we will all be happy soon!

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Explorers10 · 05/03/2019 17:57

@mymedusa24 thank you will try not to have any doubts and be positive!

@BFPhopeful2019 I am in same boat but am trying to now focus on now and I am where I am now I can't turn back the years. Which cycle day are you on? I'm on cycle day 24 so soon find out if AF turns up. I don't feel pregnant so I'm thinking I'm going onto cycle 5. I also know a lot of older ladies who have got pregnant so I'm going to focus on that and be positive it will happen 1 day

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BFPhopeful2019 · 05/03/2019 18:44

@Explorers10 I’m on day 7 but for some reason symptom spotting from last month. The extremely light period had thrown me. I’m throwing myself in to those month. This will work, it might just take time. I’ll keep everything crossed for you and hope that AF doesn’t show up. Sometimes no symptoms are the main symptom! Let me know how you get on.

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Explorers10 · 05/03/2019 20:16

@BFPhopeful2019

I will let you know how I get on. I knew with my first I was pregnant as felt different, I feel no different this time

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BFPhopeful2019 · 06/03/2019 10:06

My best friend has just announced she’s pregnant. I’m so happy for her but it makes me so sad for myself too.....which makes me feel like a horrible person.

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Explorers10 · 06/03/2019 10:14

@BFPhopeful2019

It’s normal to be feeling the way you are feeling. Keep strong and chin up. I’ve got fingers crossed 🤞 you be next

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BFPhopeful2019 · 06/03/2019 11:14

Thank-you for saying this is normal. I just want to not be upset by it as she deserves this lovely news.

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