Had unexpected secondary infertility with DC2 after an easy pregnancy with DC1. It was male factor so decent chance of IVF working - we started IVF, had a fresh cycle which sadly did not work out but had some good embryos frozen. Used one in a frozen cycle and was successful, very over the moon and DC2 is here safe and sound. So I appreciate we are lucky to have gotten what we want.
However the part I hadn't really given any consideration to is to what happens to the other frosties. We have to decide whether to keep them in storage or discard them. We are 99.9% sure we don't want any more children yet I still feel sad about the 'potentials' of the embryos. I know we will end up discarding them but I am finding it hard to process how I feel about that. If this round hadn't worked out then one of them might have become our second child! The process is so bound up with doing everything you can to getting a successful pregnancy that this situation hadn't really been raised. Am I daft to be worrying about it?
I think I'll also feel weird - almost ashamed - telling my parents etc what is happening to them. Yet they don't expect us to be having any more.
The IVF was all-consuming at the time and now it almost feels like it happened to someone else.