Ridiculously anxious.

[McHelenz]

Hi guys I'm just really hoping for someone to calm me down.

Had a lot of baby chats this week and we have decided to push back trying a month just to sort out some money bits. We were having to wait until April because of Zika risk from our holiday.

Been out today with my mum, told her our plans. She's then responded with it took her 6 years to have me and something that I'm going to be an old mum (I'll be 31 in May).

Needless to say, my already anxious brain is firing. I'm really upset, convinced I'll never have kids.

Should I be worried it took her so long to have me? I dont think I have PCOS or anything. My cycles are pretty regular. I'm just overweight which I'm hoping to manage.

Calming thoughts are welcome...

31 isn’t old at all! And just because it took your mum 6 years to have you, doesn’t mean you’ll have the same issue. If your cycles are regular, it sounds like your probably ovulating and what not, so your chances are probably as good as any! Try not to get too anxious about it, especially as you haven’t even started trying yet. Have a lovely holiday and then enjoy trying for the baby hehe

Thank you. I knew that was possibly the case. I've just had knock backs this week because DH has said to wait another month because of money and then mum saying this 😭. I'm already an anxious person and am convinced it won't happen.

Oh @Mchelenz I think these feelings are really normal. I certainly feel them and you need to remind yourself that you can't think yourself infertile. You will probably be fine and If it does take longer than a year you can go to the nhs (assuming you're in UK) and get help fairly quick. You'd still be very young at that point.

I am 32 ttc #1 for a year now but my DP has some issues which slow us down.

My Dad also told me fairly recently that it took him and my mum 5 years each to conceive my bro and then me but they smoked and no-one knew about ovulation tests etc then. My brother had 3 children in 5 years!

Thank you @veeboo that's really good to hear about your brother. My husband had mumps at 21 so that has always been in the back of my mind.

My mum can be really unhelpful at times. I know we've got to just get down to it, and I'm just getting very impatient.

Mexico was lovely but this 6 month wait is not 😔

Fx for you @Mchelenz and these boards are really helpful so see you in these when you're ready :)