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Too soon?

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sunnyblueskies · 11/02/2019 20:24

So I left my STBXH early last year. I got together with my current partner in July last year. We have known each other for 10 years and have a great solid foundation.
I already have a 4 year old and we both really would like a child together. We are older (I’m 34). We both have good jobs and are looking to buy another property together this year. We love each other dearly and have the best time. I feel like I’ve found my soulmate.

My closest friends and sibling think I’m absolutely nuts for even contemplating it so soon. It doesn’t feel weird to me.
Am I being nuts? Is it too soon?

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Sleepyquest · 11/02/2019 20:59

I personally think it's too soon, how do you really know you can bring up a child with a man you've been with for 6 months? Are you living together?

That being said, a lot of people do it and only you know if it's right!

whyhaveidonethis · 12/02/2019 16:04

If you are ready then I say go for it. I've been with DP for 18 months and we have been trying for 5 months now. We are both early 40s so need to get going if it's going to happen. No one knows about your relationship but you.

Poppywood · 12/02/2019 17:03

I think only you can answer this question and I wouldn't let other peoples opinions influence you, although I'm sure they only have your best interests at heart, everyone's relationships and experiences are so personal an unique.

But for what it's worth here's my thoughts.....From the sounds of it you and your previous partner were together for 6 years before having a child together and sadly that relationship didn't work out - I think this goes to show that just because you've been with someone for a long time doesn't necessarily mean that you can say without doubt that you will always be together or that you know you are ready for a child together. Relationships are fluid, they change all the time, and even people who have been together for 15 years and then decide to have a baby can end up separating after. I guess what's important is that a child is created with love, and even if that relationship doesn't last forever you are both committed to always putting that child first and working together to be the best parents you can be despite your own differences.

If you share the same values and visions for the children you have together and if it feels right to you, right now, then it's probably right - you can't guarantee the future though....no one can!

Best of luck xxx

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