Thanks gruffalo. I really appreciate the chance to talk it through! We had another talk today and he seems much more on board. He said he just felt that maybe we should both want it more, if we are going to make a big change. I really do want it, but I’m also conscious of the things we would be giving up, and want to acknowledge that.
It really does change when you are dealing with school, homework, classes, and work. Our children haven’t been great sleepers (#1 didn’t sleep through the night even once before the age of 2) so the baby stages were hard. We love the toddler/preschool age. With our 7yo, we have sports classes, after school clubs, swimming, and childcare to juggle. It’s hard to picture being physically capable of doing so much with a DC3.
We have finished with nappies now, so back to that, and sleepless nights. But in my view that is all so short term compared to the long term!
I guess we are also thinking that we’d have an 18yo and 10yo which seems like a big gap. Equally, small gaps are tough on the parents! I know several really lovely families with teen and adult sibling sets of three and they all seem wonderful - they have different relationships and all seem so close!
I should confess that DH’s job takes him out of the country almost every week, and I travel overseas probably every 2-3 months, so the kids do suffer a bit on that front. But they are so resilient and so caring, and I think the same would be true with three.
Sorry, that is a huge ramble!