My DH and I have been TTC for a year now. I have irregular cycles (last was 51 days). Each cycle I record everything and make changes in the hope of a BFP.
This cycle I've been doing: CB OPKs, ConceivePlus, folic acid, TTC multivit, recommended vit D, B vits, baby aspirin, coQ10 200mg, cough syrup during ov, grapefruit juice, Brazil nuts, flaxseed, chia seeds, hot organic vegetarian foods only, no cold or raw foods, no caffeine, no alcohol, no diet coke (perhaps the hardest thing to give up!), meditation, yoga, laughter yoga(!), qigong, trying to be positive and avoid stress, weekly acupuncture and moxa, hot water bottle on lower ab, visualisations, no plastics or foil used to cook or contain food or drink, no microwave cooking, warm water, chai tea, nettle tea, raspberry leaf tea, and (willing to try anything) not wearing 'cold' coloured jewellery, so no wedding and engagement rings as they're white gold. I'm sure many of you will notice I've been reading certain fertility books! This doesn't include all the other things I've tried over the last year, along with countless Drs apts, blood tests and an ultrasound sound.
In comparison, my DH has changed... Nothing. He's not adapted his lifestyle at all. He has this idea that it'll happen naturally, without any additional help. Only it hasn't.
I'm pissed off as Thursday AM I showed him my static smiley CB OPK. We BD but he couldn't ejaculate. Stress, I thought, wishing I hadn't shown him the test. He suggested we BD again that evening. Roll on 9pm, he returns from work, eats dinner and switches on Netflix. I say I'm off to bed, he stays and watches TV! He later comes to bed and starts, what can only be described as pulling my hair, I'm assuming, his idea of seductively waking me up. I got upset and slept on the sofa (yes, coldest night in 7 years, according to the MET and my marriage!).
Friday morning we had a big chat. He says he wants to have children and admits seeing the test contributed to our failed BD.
So roll on Friday night. Air cleared. Again, after about an hour of BDing, and my pulling out all the moves, nothing!
I feel crushed that I'm working so hard to get a BFP and not put stress on him, and he only has to do one thing and has missed our one opportunity.
Is it even worth trying to BD today (Sat)? We last successfully BD on Tuesday. Do I stand any chance this cycle? I can cope with a BFN if we've at least tried, but missing that one chance completely and having to potentially wait another 50 days is killing me. 