Think I have my BFP but not confident.

[LouDew]

Hi,

I’ve attached a picture of the FRER I took this morning with FMU. I’m on cycle day 28 and not too sure how many days post ovulation as I never got a true positive on OPKs this month. I’d have a guess at 11dpo.
This is our second cycle trying after a missed miscarriage on Oct 2018 at 12 weeks. We were heartbroken and have desperately wanted nothing more than to conceive again...the first step towards our dream of a little baby. It would be our first.
I feel like it’s too good to be true! I don’t want to do another test because I don’t want to see a BFN! Will retest again on Tuesday morning.
I have a slight problem though...I am a teacher in a primary school and last week our school had an outbreak of chicken pox. The school sent an email to parents and staff warning the potential risk to pregnant women. Another member of staff is pregnant and she had to have a blood test to check her immunity. She wasn’t allowed into school until she had the results.
Of course I want to do everything I can to ensure there is no added risk to this pregnancy but I’m not sure, at 4 weeks, I’m ready to tell my headteacher that I’m pregnant. He was incredibly supportive throughout the miscarriage but I’m just not sure I want to share this news yet.
Has anyone been in a similar position?
Do I go into school and ring the doctors when they open to get the next available appointment, or do I not go in until I’ve seen a doctor?
I’ve got everything crossed this really is a BFP and that it goes smoothly. The worrying has started already!

Lou

Firstly, I’m not a doctor so you might not want to listen to me, but let’s have a think.

I think I can see a very faint line, but I don’t know whether that means it’s definitely going to go your way. It’s very early to tell school though. So I guess you wouldn’t want to. I don’t think I would want to.

Have you had pox before? If yes, then I would reason that that combined with working with kids and being exposed to pox regularly means you’re probably ok.

You possibly could take a sick day and try and get an answer through your gp but I guess that is more complicated in a school.

MMC is very hard, I’ve supported a couple of friends through. It’s been very difficult for them, so I do sympathise

Looks positive to me. Congratulations.

Sounds like a ott reaction to chicken pox, this happened in my school and I googled it, said that if you had chicken pox as a child there was no risk, as far as I remember.

There's definitely a line, congratulations! Wishing you a really smooth and boring 8 months.

I'd ring in sick tomorrow and go to the GP. Only a dr can advise you on what to do.

Lots of luck

If you’ve had chicken pox before then you are immune and won’t need to do anything, there is no extra risk to you or baby. If you are unsure if you’ve had chicken pox make a GP appointment tomorrow and get some bloods done x

Thank you all for your replies.
I know I’m overthinking the chicken pox issue but after the MMC I just want to make sure I’m doing everything within my control to keep this baby safe!

Id phone as a day you needed an urgent gp appointment and will be in after.. Go to gp and see what they say. If they say don't go to work get them to give you a sick line and then phone in sick ..
Also a primary teacher and also had 2 mmc. They are so hard. Sorry for your loss.
I now have a 10 month old but I did take more days off during pregnancy that I felt I would have if I hadn't had a mmc but I was advised by doctor to take it easy. During my pregnancy I was working with someone with shingles and was told by consultant as long as I had chicken pox before baby should be OK. But I would still double check about chicken pox before going to work

Yes you have a positive

Congratulations OP, definitely positive!
As someone who has also experienced an MC, I understand your concern.

In your position, I would get an urgent GP appointment and speaking to them about it before returning to work.

I understand the situation, as you're very early, but (God forbid), should anything go wrong, you may need time off anyway, in which case I personally wouldn't be overly concerned about sharing your news with the headteacher.

Whatever decision you make, I wish you a halt and healthy pregnancy!

Definitely a line! Congrats! I’m 5 weeks and I also had a mmc 5 months ago, I can relate to the anxiousness it’s rather intense! Some of my cousins children who I’m closed to currently have pox but I’ve been told I’m safe because I had it as a child. Good luck to you ❤️ Try and remain positive and take each day as it comes xx

That's a BFP. After 2 losses I told my head at 6 weeks and she was brilliant. I'm now 25 weeks and had loads of time off for scans, bleeding, chicken pox scare and bloods haha, appointments and because she knows she can keep me safe and tell me if there is anything in school. Goodluck and hope you have a healthy pregnancy xx

That is definitely a positive, congratulations. Obviously early days but today you are pregnant.

If you have had pox before don't worry about it.
Most children will have had pox before they started school so I can't believe the "outbreak" is that widespread?

But yeah if you've not had it and are worried I would mention to the HT though I completely get that in normal circumstances you wouldn't. In my second pregnancy I was so convinced it wouldn't work out that I didn't tell my boss until I was about 18 weeks. Was convinced they'd figured it out but apparently not

Thanks for all your advice.
I think I’m going to give the doctors a call in the morning. I think I’d just be worrying if I didn’t. Will see what they say before deciding to tell my Head or not.
Still in shock I think!!

I'm a teacher and advice for me from gp was since I've had chicken pox it's not an issue.

I wanted to wait to tell work but got signed off at 8 weeks with hyperemesis so had to tell them early!

Sorry for your loss. I had two miscarriages year and have found pregnancy very anxiety-ridden this time, so I do feel for you. My early pregnancy unit offered me an early scan at 8 weeks which helped somewhat - is this something you could arrange? I found having dates in my diary a good way to tick the days off.

I also joined a mumsnet ante natal group (search under "becoming a parent" section in forum) and really found that helped get me through the first trimester.