42 too old?

[Summerdreamss]

To try for dc2? In my head I don't feel old but I'm more worried what other people think, which I know I shouldn't.
Did anyone get negative comments or unhelpful advice?

Not at all! I know several - and a 50 year old...! 42 is nothing these days.

You can't turn the clock back... so if you want DC2 then go for it!

Spending your life worrying what other people think doesn't sound like a path that leads to happiness.

In terms of fertility, perhaps. I’m 42 (no kids) & aware that I don’t have a whole lot eggs to work with. Nor am I confident about the quality of those eggs... Still trying though!
Most of my friends had their kids before 40. Are you considering fertility treatment etc? (in terms of comments, my mother thinks I’m too old).

Go for it, DCs at age 40.8 and 43.8

I had my daughter at 43. Never had any negative comments.

Absolutely not too old, go for it!

Thanks for positive response. I've no idea if I'll need fertility treatment, hoping not but will see. I really shouldn't stress what other people think if it's negative

I'm 42 and married in 2017 to a man who has no DC. I have a 22 YO and am 50/50 if I want another. I have a good job and we own properties but am struggling to agree. This is despite the fact he would be an amazing father, albeit nearly 50

Billy, does your husband not want a child or are you both undecided?
I already have a 9 year old do worried about gap

I’m almost 43 (birthday at weekend) I had a mc back in September (not first dc) we are trying again. However, at over 40 you have to be prepared for mc unless you get really lucky and hit a good egg straight away! Mc is much more common over 40 and it’s exceptionally upsetting. But I say that 42 isn’t too old at all! 👍🏻😃

I’ll get flamed for this but yes I think it might be. Modern living leads us to believe that this is the prime age for children, socially and financially but biologically, it just isn’t. Please go ahead and try and I wish you all the best, but don’t be surprised if you can’t get pregnant or there are complications. It might also be a lot harder raising a child at that age so bear in mind your support systems etc. Good luck OP.

Summer he has mentioned it and part of me would love to give him a child. However we have had a wonderful life in the last few years with my DS holidays and travel etc. If I got pregnant accidentally I think I would be fine. It's just the age thing. My DS adores having a young mum. I feel very conflicted

Billy I can relate to that, my ds is primary age but money, career etc is settled and it's going back to scratch I guess

I had my third at 42.
I personally don't feel it's too old and I have a few friends the same age with children the same age as our third.

My mum was 41, dad 42, my 2 brothers were 12 and 14 yrs. They loved and were excited for me to be born (i am lucky to have lovely brothers) and my mum is in 70s now and still zipping around with more energy than me and i am 30s! Dont fret, the key is you 2nd sentence: you dont feel old. Youre not. Some people at 42 are ready to give up. Yes it can be harder to concieve etc, but its not a given!

Not too old to be a mother, but you might hit difficulties getting and staying pregnant, and need to work harder at timing and nutrition. I think judgement from others is not something you should worry about, especially in your 40s. I'm 43 and TTC #2. I had my first just before I was 42 and never felt any judgement around me, just happiness. My midwife with my first said I wasn't that old at 41 and acted like it was a non-event.

Thank you for positive options and those who have offered balanced views.
It's probably the older generation who think anyone over 30 is too old so I just need to let them get in with it.

Had my second at 43 and it was a wonderful pregnancy - she's two now. (Two miscarriages in between DD1 and DD2 though which is sadly very common).