How do you stop it hurting?

[Ilovewheelychairs]

So DH and I have been ttc for over a year now. We've been refused any fertility tests at all because I'm overweight (although am doing my best to lose), despite them admitting they think I have endo. I have just about coped with all the recent pregnancy announcements from friends, but today my brother texted me to tell me his partner is pregnant. She is older than me, and got pregnant first month of trying. She is a generally horrible, selfish, narcissistic person which does not help my view of it all!

I am in bits. Utterly broken. It all feels so horribly unfair. I don't know how to make it stop hurting and I hate the bitter person this is making me into. Bring a Mum has been my only real desire in life since I was a child. I don't know how I will carry on if it doesn't happen for me :-(

Hi @Ilovewheelychairs

I don't have any answers, I'm in the same boat as you. I've done everything from unfollowing every pregnant person on Facebook to excluding myself from socialising with pregnant friends.

Sorry it sucks as much for you too

Fingers crossed for you x

I'm sorry you're going through this. I found Anya Sizer's book Fertile Thinking really helped with the mental side of coping with infertility. One of the quotes that stayed with me was "It will be alright in the end. And if it's not alright, it's not the end."

Thanks both. Hoping a good nights sleep will help me be w bit more rational!

I’m so sorry to hear how hard you are finding it. DH and I are in a similar boat but we have been trying for 6 months. Two close friends have announced their pregnancies and it’s totally crushing. My heart has felt empty for a couple of months now, the only positive way for DH and I to see it is that it confirms how much we want a little person in our lives and how happy we will be if and when it does happen. The waiting is the killer. Sending you positive vibes ❤️.

Really hoping it will happen for all of us! Sending you all sticky bean vibes! X

I have no advise but am in the same boat, it's been 13 months of TTC #2, overweight and trying to lose to be able to have the tablets to help with my PCOS. Also had 5 close family/work colleagues babies have been pregnant and had the babies in that time! So well and truly baby bombed in the last year.

I avoided them if needed and still am slightly as its hard to see them and hear them moan about being tired ect when I am desperate for the chance again. Give yourself time to mope and be sad, enjoy a glass of something alcoholic while you can and be kind to yourself.