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rosebud135 · 21/01/2019 10:09

I need help figuring out a potential father, I’m really ashamed about this but it’s the make or break on whether I continue with the pregnancy, me and my partner have been together for a while however been really rocky, this has come at the worst time because after I discovered I was pregnant it brought us together and we were unbreakable and now I feel so stupid, I understand you will judge if anything I accept it, but just hoping someone can understand. My LMP was the 5th of nov 2018, my cycles are usually 30/31 days as it was the 5th before that also, I don’t have any other records. I had frequent sex with guy A up until the 25th of November, and then on the 2nd of Dec, I had intercourse with Guy B, he did not use the pull out method or ejaculate full stop, however I’m aware there are chances. For the record, It is not something I would do again or have done before, I felt ashamed afterwards because I still loved my ex so much, I did it thinking it may help me get over him but it was the total opposite. I am due my scan soon but according to my LMP I am 11 weeks pregnant today. Did not find out I was pregnant till around the 3rd/4th of Jan, had experience severe nausea and went off all my favourite foods completely from the 21st and also came up in pregnancy hives on the 28th for around a week which all made sense upon discovering I was pregnant. Me and the other half have caught before but I sadly miscarried very early. I understand it’s a silly situation but was just hoping on getting some insight or advice, thank you in advance.

Ps, partner is aware, I have been honest with him.

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foreverthe2ww2 · 21/01/2019 10:26

hey,

So the first day of your last period was the 12th of November? .. therefor ovulating around the 26th of November? so id say its guy A only just. i would guess that dtd on the 2nd of december would of missed ovulation by a few days is what im thinking ... ?

foreverthe2ww2 · 21/01/2019 10:28

because if you count from 2nd of december that is only 7 weeks and 1 day ago so not possible to be guy b?

foreverthe2ww2 · 21/01/2019 10:31

actually scrap the last message because regardless of when you conceive its 11 wweks because they count from the the first day of your last period but still in my first message i think i worked it out right.

ILoveMaxiBondi · 21/01/2019 10:32

My LMP was the 5th of nov 2018

So conception will have been around the 19/20/21 of November. You had sex with guy A up to the 25th of November and guy B on the 2 of December but he didn’t ejaculate. My money is on Guy A. But again, there are no guarantees.

SuziQ10 · 21/01/2019 11:14

Guy A much more likely.

rosebud135 · 21/01/2019 12:12

My last menstrual period started on the 5th of November, I never usually track my periods at all but luckily I have messages dating back to a friend of me complaining about starting my periods, I know I'm probably going to have a better idea once I have a scan,
I just want to say thank you to everybody this is my first child and isn't at all how I planned it to go or imagined the stress, I know it's my own fault really but it was an honest regret.

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Lellybelly54 · 21/01/2019 21:20

I feel your pain I'm going through a familiar experience however I've had my early scan and it seems it is my off/on partners and not my one night stand who also didn't ejaculate but I was and am still worried about pre cum etc. But I'm still not 100% convinced.i had a period inbetween them both but was really worried it could have been an implantation bleed and not a period. Anyway the scan gave me a lot of reassurance when have you got yours?x

HumpHumpWhale · 21/01/2019 21:23

I don't really set how it could have been the one night stand. You were just about due your period by then, it's really unlikely.
Good luck!

Lellybelly54 · 21/01/2019 21:26

Yes.i agree unlikely to be the one night stand I think from the dates

rosebud135 · 22/01/2019 07:31

Lellybelly54, I am due scan next Monday, will be my first and can hopefully clear things up. Smile

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Russell19 · 22/01/2019 22:10

Your scan won't really clear anything up.... the dates still go from the first day of your last period.

Highlowpo · 22/01/2019 22:14

I agree much more likely your Guy A. 2nd Dec you would have been a couple of days from your period and not fertile. That combined with the fact that he didn't ejaculate makes it extremely unlikely. I wouldn't expect the scan to give you any answers. They still go off the date of your period and adjust by a few days for baby's growth but it wouldn't give you an exact conception date or realistically any closer than you have now.

Bigonesmallone3 · 22/01/2019 22:19

If u had sex with guy b on the 2nd of December only and your period was due 5/6th of December he is highly unlikely to be the father!

rosebud135 · 30/01/2019 09:16

Went for a private scan for peace of mind, I measured at 11+5 on the day, so now I am 12+2, i think it's pretty much confirmed what I knew as it shouldn't be possible then for it to be the other mans?
Partner and I are very happy and I can finally enjoy my pregnancy and baby 😍 thanks everyone for the help

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Mrsmummy90 · 30/01/2019 13:53

Glad you got some confirmation!

Russell19 · 30/01/2019 17:36

I'm not sure how it clears things up more.... I don't want to upset you but being realistic if you ovulated a week late it could still be guy B's. There's no way of knowing from a scan as it's still going from your LMP.

I agree likelihood is that it sounds like guy A's but there is no way you can be 100% certain at this point.

Jaxtellerswife · 30/01/2019 17:40

The first scan dates are what they go by and the most accurate

ILoveMaxiBondi · 30/01/2019 17:46

No russel the 12 week scan is called the dating scan for a reason, that’s because it is used to date the pregnancy. LMP is disregarded once the dating scan has occurred. They only use dates from the dating scan from this point forward. Is as accurate as it gets.

53rdWay · 30/01/2019 17:47

Early scans don’t go by LMP, they go by measurement. Agree it’s unlikely it would be Guy B’s if it’s measuring at 12+2 now.

Russell19 · 30/01/2019 17:56

What I said still stands.....There's no way of knowing for sure at this point.

I know it's used to date by growth etc but what I meant was the dates given by her scan still fit in with OPs LMP. It isn't giving any more information that what she already knew.

If she was dated 2 or 3 weeks behind then yeah it would've suggested guy B but still no certainty here.

ILoveMaxiBondi · 30/01/2019 18:00

The scan indicates conception on the 19th of November. For it to be Guy Bs child the scan would have dated her two weeks less pregnant. No idea why you’re trying to piss on her chips.

Russell19 · 30/01/2019 18:12

I'm saying it doesn't confirm anything 100%

53rdWay · 30/01/2019 18:18

Russel I think you’re getting confused with what LMP dates can say vs scans.

Her LMP dates indicate conception around 19 Nov. But LMP can’t tell you if you’ve ovulated late.

Her scan dates say, no, she didn’t ovulate late, conception was around the 19th.

It would be very unlikely for a first-trimester scan to be 2 weeks out.

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