Is 37 too old to have a second child?

[MamaPigeon]

I was 22 when I last had a full pregnancy and I had a miscarriage when I was 27 when trying for my second. The miscarriage hit me pretty hard but it's been 10 years to date now and I think I might give it one more go. I'd hate to say I only raised one child in my lifetime but is 37 pushing it for having a child? My son is already 15 so him and a baby would have trouble connecting like regular siblings should but I was hoping having a much older sibling would make for a good role model as my son is such a good responsible boy!
My hubby is ready for a second child but we both need to be good to go in order to start trying to conceive again but he is no help at making me feel better in this situation unfortunately...
I personally don't think it's too much of a stretch but I still worry about being too old. I know it's now or never but I would like to get some input before I make a decision :)

I'm pregnant with my second at 37. I had my first at 34, had a miscarriage last summer. Many women don't have their first until their 40s.

If you're healthy and don't mind the prospect of the sleepless nights again then go for it . There's a chance that TTC might take a little longer, but not necessarily. There's a chance your body at 37 might find pregnancy harder but again not necessarily.

Personally if I was in your situation I think i'd just be looking forward to all the things I could do once my DS left home (traveling etc) and I wouldn't want another DC to spoil that but if it's something you both really want then great go for it.

You will be 55 when this next one turns 18 though instead of 40.….

I just had my 3rd at 37, and my friend (same age) is just about to have her 4th! Don't get me wrong, the whole thing (pregnancy through to actually looking after them) feels harder than my first when I was younger, but there's no way I feel "too old". Also re the age gap between siblings... 15 years between me and my (half) brother and 20 between me and my (half) sister. Slightly different circumstances obviously but I idolised them both growing up. We weren't close like regular siblings but they've always had my back and in the end their own children were much closer in age to me and I ended up having a good relationship with them too.
Good luck!

It depends on how you feel. I had my first at 37, if I have another I’m likely to be 39 or 40.

I had my first at 40... your 2nd at 37 is not too old at all!

Not at all - I had my darling DD at 37 .... she is my world 🌍

Good luck

Not at all. You'll only be 55 when they turn 18 so still young!

I had my 2nd at 38. I have two friends who had 2nd babies at 45. And another who had her first at 41.

I’m 39+5 with my second (and possibly in early labour 😳) and I’m 36.

My first turned 15 a couple weeks ago.

Totally doable.

I'm 38 and pregnant with DC3 so no, so by itself of course 37 isn't too old. Could you cope with another miscarriage though, the risk is higher at 37 than in your 20s (see expectingscience.com/2015/09/22/age-and-the-risk-of-miscarriage/ if you want more info)?

No, of course not!

I had my 5th at 37, was officially an 'older mother' but everything went went well. Normal pregnancy and delivery and recovery. Did get sent home with injections to administer at home which I think was because I was older and something to do with clotting. Go for it if you want to , but not sure i would want to when your life is getting so much easier. Couples holidays to marvellous exciting places, or chasing a toddler round a pool .?! Don't think I would! But yes I was 37 and it was fine and no one has ever thought i was her grandma. Well, maybe once!

Not at all. I had my first at 37, second at 39 and third at 41. What it does mean is that assuming you will care/ pay for them in some way until say 21, you won't have much time prior to retirement to save/ enjoy yourself, but only one child isn't (as you will know) a huge time or financial impact (three is).

My mum had me at 37 and i had my first at 39, another at 40. But everyone is different. In theory it's not too late, in practice you don't know until you try.

I had my first child at 37! I didn't feel old at all. Had my second at 45 and did/do feel a bit old but not so it's a problem.

Definitely not. Hope it goes well for you.

Not at all!!! Good luck!

I’m 37 and having my 4th. My other dc are 15, 14 and 18 months.
It’s actually been a lot easier this time around!

I’d certainly hope not! I was 39.5 when I had my first....now 40.5 and TTC no.2!

Nope. Just had my 3rd at 37

Not at all! Had my first at 34, currently 8 months preg with #2 and I'm 39

I had a dc at 37+43!!

I'm TTC at 37, I don't feel too old.

My sister had a gap of 15 years between child 2 and 3. Both child 1 and 2 adore the baby and the baby worships the older ones.
Obviously it's a different relationship to the one 1 and 2 have but it doesn't make it less special

Good luck

I’m pregnant and 41. Apparently a lot of babies are born to older mothers nowadays. So no I don’t think you’re too old.

Nowhere near too old! Why do we have this concept in this country that 30s is old to be a parent?! You’re a spring chicken! Mother Nature gives us periods well into our late 40s/early 50s for a reason.

Think of Alex Jones on the one show she is having her second and she is 41! Your not too old!