Cause of miscarriage?

[meshi]

Hi Ladies,

I just had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks ( found out it stopped developing at 6 weeks) :( I know there is no sure way to know the cause but I'm wondering if any of you ladies have any guesses/gut feeling about causes for miscarriage? I find it strange it is so common but the reasons still unknown. Have any doctors given you their guesses?

I'm so sorry about your miscarriage OP

There are a number of known causes for miscarriage, including rare inherited clotting disorders, rare structural uterine abnormalities and significant alcohol/drug intake in pregnancy, but by far the most common cause is just simple bad luck; not every sperm and egg will join together to produce a quality embryo with all the genetic information required to develop into a baby. If you look at the embryos produced by IVF, there is often a mix of normal/healthy embryos, and genetically abnormal embryos which would not develop beyond the early stages if implanted. It is unsurprising that miscarriages happen so commonly in naturally conceived pregnancies, where there is no pre-implantation screening of embryos. With abnormal/incomplete genetic code the embryo can only develop so far before it reaches a point where the genetic instructions to continue developing are just not there. This is nobody's fault (just bad luck) and the vast majority of women who have a miscarriage will go on to have successful pregnancies.

Best of luck for the future if you choose to try again when you are ready.

I had a miscarriage and have no gut feeling or idea why it happened. The baby died at about 8 weeks. Just one of those things. It's so incredibly shit though.

My Dr said we could send it for genetic testing but there wasn't much point as it was our first MC so we didn't bother.

I hope you're doing ok. My miscarriage is consuming my mind at the moment (probably because I've just started my first post MC period).

Thank you for your responses. I wish I could be sure it'll work out next time around, that would make this easier.

@Kinsters I'm so sorry you are going through this as well :( lots of hugs. I am finding it very difficult to cope emotionally. Everyday I am fine for half the day and then depression sets in sometime in the afternoon. I haven't had a period yet, but that will be one milestone to help move on. Take the positive, at least you are on the right track, getting back to your usual self :) My biggest worry atm is future pregnancy. I fear the sane thing happening but I think everyone does after a MC so I just have to accept it's normal and okay to feel that way. Are you considering trying again?

Meshi yes, emotionally its very hard. Work has been very quiet at the moment so I have too much time to sit and stew in my own thoughts.

I guess it's bittersweet starting to get back to normal and move on from it, I want that baby back so badly.

Yes the thought of it happening again is really scary. I don't know at what point I'd trust a pregnancy was OK in the future. We had seen a heartbeat at 7+5 and then by 8+4 it had stopped. I'd had some bleeding though. I guess if it happened again we'd just deal with it because what else can you do?

We're trying again straight away, didn't see the point in waiting. I just want to be pregnant again and I hope that will make me feel happier.

Are you waiting to try again? Or not sure if you even will?

@Kinsters so sorry you had to experience that emotional roller coaster :( I hope you are getting better each day! And I wish for your next pregnancy to go perfect :)

We will be trying again just not sure when. I actually had a possible ectopic pregnancy at the same time but waiting on lab results to confirm that. If they confirm ectopic then I will feel unsure about trying as it can be such a dangerous thing :( It's really scary to know there is that chance of putting your life at risk, not sure how to cope.