Period starting AGAIN arghhhhhh

[Secretlifeofme]

Why is my period here again when I want a baby so badly, when I have done all the right things (on luteal phase progesterone, thyroxine, baby aspirin), when DH and I had LOADS of sex in the fertile window?! Going to be 40 this year, been trying since Sept 2016, two miscarriages and a chemical pregnancy since then and I'm JUST SO FED UP.

Sorry. Just needed a moan

And DH keeps telling me to 'be philosophical' about it. FFS

That is so frustrating. Have u been to see the doc yet? X

Yeah, we have been to see the gynaecologist so many times. Latest treatment is the cyclogest pessaries and thyroid medication. They keep telling me there's not a big problem and we just need to tweak a few things and it will happen. BUT IT'S NOT HAPPENING.

Sorry to shout

Shout away!!! It's just not fair especially when there's no reason that you shouldn't be pregnant by now.
Have u tried some mindfulness? It sometimes helps me stay calm and reduces my frustration

Funnily enough, DH and I have just been talking about me possibly having acupuncture! I think it's a load of nonsense tbh but two different gynaecologists have now recommended it so I guess I might give it a try

Bumping for anyone else who might want to join the pity party over here

It is brutal I know. I just keep telling myself that every no is closer to a yes and that it wasn’t meant to be this month. When AF appears I buy something nice for myself or plan a holiday and think hey I couldn’t do this if I had a baby!

That's a nice approach Mummy2b227 :) I wish I could be more positive about the whole thing but it's very hard.

Hi @Secretlifeofme, you might not remember me but we've spoken before a few months ago. Just wanted to say I'm sorry you're still here. I hope things work for you very soon 💜

Hi @Secretlifeofme, I'll join the pity party if I'm welcome! I'm so sorry to hear about what you've gone through. It sucks. In comparison, I'm at the beginning of my journey. Been TTC for 10 months but have PCOS so don't ovulate so what was the fucking point in getting my hopes up. AF is due sometime next week. Since I started TTC I have had 3 people in my extended family and my sister announce their pregnancies, as well as loads of friends/acquaintances/colleagues. I'm starting Clomid on my next cycle but honestly don't have high hopes. Generally i try to stay positive but just found out yet another friend is pregnant so definitely allowing myself an evening to wallow in self pity.

Thanks @VenusStarr and @Willowjasmine (and Venus of course I remember you! Thanks for replying!). It's shit isn't it. And as you say Willow, so much harder when friends seem to be able to get pregnant at the drop of a hat .

I feel your pain - been trying since about June 2016, two chemicals fruit year, nothing since then. Has your DP had a spermcomet test? It measures DNA fragmentation issues & can uncover problems that the normal SA won't detect. Worth a try if it is unexplained infertility.

I did acupuncture for about 6 months. It was lovely and therapeutic and really helped my mental health but obviously didn't get pregnant. I'm 40 this year too 🤦‍♀️

:) @Secretlifeofme it's the worst thing I've been through. We're likely to need help but I'm finding all the waiting so hard. Finally seeing my GP on Wednesday, a month after a scan that said my tubes were blocked. Feel like life is in limbo. I'm definitely avoiding people at the moment. Sending love 💜

@ronswansonstache there's something very doom-laden about the thought of turning 40 without being pregnant, isn't there? Sending thoughts to you. Re the sperm analysis, apparently we don't need one because I have been pregnant three times :(

@VenusStarr sorry to hear about your tubes. Hopefully the doctor will be able to give you some answers

It might be worth checking out to give you peace of mind - there was a recent news story about male DNA damage causing miscarriage

www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/jan/04/more-male-tests-needed-in-cases-of-repeated-miscarriages-uk-study

The sperm comet test is expensive (we paid £500) but if a problem is detected they can scan for issues such as variocele, which might be able to be treated.

Sending best wishes to you. Last year was very difficult for me but I think I'm becoming resigned to it now. Things get better, but I hope we both get what we really want!