Whether to start TTC

[Blueflower22]

Hello ladies,

I'm in a bit of a mental dilemma and wanted to just share my thoughts.

I am 20 years old and just about to finish uni this year and go on to do my PGCE in teaching from September 2019. My husband is 26 and is in permanent work and we both live together and have known eachother for two years.

We really would like to conceive a child and have started trying since last month after constant discussion. I know that if I don't do my teacher training then I will most likely not do it, so I've tried to change my mind and told DH that we're not going to try until next January, he said it was my choice and he didn't mind. As soon as I told him I felt like I regretted it and a sadness came over me as if I was doing the wrong thing. I feel quite unhappy now and feel as if we should just keep trying. This is because January for us feels like a long wait. That's 12 months, and we use the withdrawal method - can't use anything else for personal reasons -so it's very difficult to not start ttc and have my fertile period in mind all the time. Even January might be a bit to soon, especially if I have any kind of pregnancy complications and I'm not well when doing my training

I've been thinking that maybe we should just try for the baby and have it because either way I will be a SAHM until child go back to school full time but will probably have more than one so that will be in about 6 years time. Within this time I would most likely be doing online courses at home so my CV will not be left.

I'm not sure if I sound crazy but I can't really get the feeling out of my head, and I feel like I should not do my pgce now. I've got interviews coming up and I feel like I hope I fail them so we can start ttc.

I know I'm probably going to get a lot of people saying do the PGCE and just wait, but I'm finding it hard

The teacher training is very full on OP, but nobody can make that decision for me.
I would not have had a baby at 20. My 20 are different to uour 20 because we are different people
I had mine at35 but to be honest I would have liked it a bit sooner, maybe 31.
If you ask me, I would do the training and work for a couple of years.
But I am not you OP

Teacher training is really intense - as is teaching in general. Im currently 31 weeks and have been qualified over 10 years and it's not easy at all (I am 16 years older than you though) If you want to be a teacher, do your training first. You are very young and have plenty of time

My advice would be to get your career established first. You are very young & have loads of time.

I'm also ttc, I'm 22, my OH is 31. We've been tifetherv5years and didn't decide until September that we wanted to try.

Knowing someone 2 years is really not very long at all.. And to marry them, at 20! Your brave ill give you that.
I would wait until next Jan, give yourself time to study, make a career for yourself, live a little bit and make sure it's what you both want, by your OP your DP isn't fussed?

Also, can't use any contraception due to personal reasons? I can never get my head around people who say this. Why can't you take any of them?

Hi @Blueflower22 getting your degree at that age would be much more beneficial for you and future children than going for children now.

I know you're going to hear this a lot, but you are so young! This is the years of life where you have Only just got your independence from family and can legally do stuff! Party, travel, enjoy life, get that degree, get an income etc.

I do think getting the degree then seeing where you are in a year will be better; you sound in two minds so completing the short term then discussing long term is the most logical in your situation.

That's my opinion anyways, so shouldn't be taken literally.