Cramping advice

[sobroody28]

So me and OH DTD on the 31st January, my app tells me my ovulation day was 2nd January but my body tells me otherwise (at least I think) I had my normal ovulation twinges and light pains where my right ovary would be on the 1st January. I did an OPK and got a very strong positive early hours (about 1am) on the 1st January and we DTD like 20 minutes before I got my strong positive OPK.

Anyway, it's now the 3rd January and I have these dull cramps that I've never had before, almost like period pains but not as strong and I've been getting the odd twinge in my lower abdomen. Does anyone know what this is? Is it normal? Could it be implantation? It's CD 16. This all started last night. I feel it is a good sign as I've never experienced this! My periods are like clockwork normally and I'm not due on until 15/16th January. Any advice would be great?!

Anyone?

Sounds like normal ovulation plain. You ovulate about 12-36 hours after the lh surge which opks pick up, so 2nd January is probably the right day for ovulation, might even be today.

But it's like a dull ache? And I've never had this before it's so strange! Everywhere else I'm reading states ovulation pain is like a sharpish pain from one side (either left or right) this is actually like I'm about to come on my period but just not as harsh ...

I feel like I've already experienced the ovulation pain a couple of days ago...

Mine is always a dull cramp, a heavy feeling. Lasts from ovulation then on and off until AF. I’d say ovulation was probably yesterday or today based on your positive OPK.

Everyone and every cycle is different. It's far, far too early for implantation. You're overthinking this, it sounds like.

Probably am @physicskate. In fact, definitely am. Every month I symptom spot and it's the worst, every month I feel like this could be my month but it never is. It's torture.

These cramps isn't something I've experienced before but considering my ovulation date it probably is related to that. This just makes me think I'm out for this month again too, since we DTD on 31st December and that was the only time we did it. I did an OPK about 20 mins after and got a strong positive but what if I've missed my chance? What if I ovulated too late after we DTD? It's been 3 days since we DTD so if I ovulated yesterday or today it's probably not going to happen for me again is it...

When prof lord Robert winston is asked, 'what helps people get pregnant?' He says, 'sex. More sex, more often.' If it's taking awhile, it might be you aren't having enough.

Look into smep. It's been successful for lots of people (but didn't work for me).

I know, I didn't see him after the 31st so that will be why (he works away).

Will look into that. What worked for you? What helped you conceive?

Realistically though for this cycle, it's looking like my chances are slim.

Ivf. Two and a half years ttc. Nothing 'wrong' was ever found. I'm currently 31 weeks pregnant.

So you know the pain of trying every month and getting negative tests. I'm happy for you - congratulations!

How old are you? If you don't mind me asking.

A lot of women I've spoken to on here have conceived within months of trying and I'm so happy for them but can't help compare them to me and ask why I don't conceive. It's still early days for me at the moment though. Trying to stay hopeful, just hard not to symptom spot.

I'm nearly 35. Started ttc when I'd just turned 32. Yes. I get it. There were some very dark times when n the year before ivf. Still can't believe it worked.

How long have you been ttc? I'm sure you've already looked at the statistics for likelihood of conceiving... it made me feel a bit better for the first year or so...

It's difficult, especially when you don't see a light at the end of the tunnel. My job is so shit at the minute too, which doesn't help. I'm what you'd class as "fairly young" have regular cycles, so we'll see. But the stress in my life definitely does not help!

Only been trying since September. Which to be realistic, isn't long at all especially considering your 2 and a half years of trying. It's only been 4 months I guess but I just always have this feeling every month that it's my month. All I have to get is an eye twitch and I'm on google seeing if that's a symptom haha!

Yes I've seen the statistics, only about 20-30% chances of conceiving each cycle which is relatively low. But it's seems to be since I've been TTC, everyone I know around me is falling pregnant, not even joking. About 20 people I know of is pregnant. All my age group too. Maybe they struggled, maybe they didn't - I don't know them well enough to know but I see there posts on social media.

Avoid social media.

And at 4 months ttc you are less likely to be pregnant than still ttc. 80% will conceive in a year. Low expectations are key.

I know, I think I'm going to delete mumsnet too. This is definitely not helping either!

Thank you for your support/advice and I wish you all the best with the remainder of your pregnancy.

Thanks. I definitely don't go for the hopeful ooey gooey approach... which can definitely be a bit different. But people need honesty and realism.

I do hope you get good news soon!!

I'm n the meantime, give yourself things to looks forward to.

How often does your oh work away? That's probably not helping tbh. Best bet is to have sex every other day throughout the month and if he's away you're probably not having enough sex.