Is it normal to be nervous when TTC

[MushroomMushroom]

Is this normal....

Next week will be my fertile week and it will be our first month of TTC our first. I've been waiting for this for six months, but now it's here I'm really scared. Worried about whether I'm ready (I'm 35!) worried about whether we can afford it (I've got a good job) and keep thinking about what I won't be able to do if I get pregnant quickly (ie events that are coming up that I won't be able to go to etc)....all really silly things in comparison to how blessed I'd be to become a mother.

I think the crux of it is I'm just really scared. I've wanted a family for years and years and now I'm freaking out a bit.

Please someone tell me this is normal!?!?

There's no RIGHT time is there?

It's like any big decision when it comes to it u have a niggling doubt..
But go with ur heart..
No there is never a right time.. u make the time right and everything will fall in place..
Happy trying and best of luck

@MushroomMushroom definitely normal!!! I was exactly the same, anxiety spirals out of control. I was the same in that I would be thinking of things I would or wouldn't be able to do if I got pregnant first month. Fast forward to 9 nearly 10 months down the line and still no bfp... every month I realise although I would still freak out about being pregnant but it's far better than the disappointment of another AF. Best of luck

@MushroomMushroom I'm on cycle one of trying too and I had the same freak out the few days after I had my coil removed.
I do still think of some things I won't be able to do this year, holidays that are in the pipeline etc, but I know that deep down really we will be ok. And it sounds like you know that for you as well!

Not at all the same, but I had a similar anxiety episode just before we got our dog once we had paid the deposit and I had been DESPERATE for a dog for years. I think it's the lifestyle change and commitment! And all I can think of with this is how much more rewarding it will be to be a mother despite the sacrifices. Our lifestyle has changed since having our dog as we can't be spontaneous amongst many other things, and I rarely think of these as sacrifices anymore. I think (hope) motherhood would be the same x 10000.

I am STILL freaking out though about what I will do on mat leave though. Baby groups and meeting other new mums - will I get lonely being in the house in the first few weeks? Will I hate baby groups? Will I completely lose my identity?

I think these are normal things to worry about though and I'm fortunate that I love my job and that's a huge part of my identity and I will have flexibility to go back part time as I see fit.

Hope some of that made sense!

To answer your other question - I really really don't think there's ever a right time.