15 months of trying since miscarriage

[PerfectionistProcrastinator]

It’s been 15 months since I miscarried my first pregnancy at 11 weeks. I’d had a private scan at 10 weeks where I saw baby moving and kicking, all looked good. It only took 2 months to conceive that time.

We have been trying ever since with no joy. I am 35. Had an initial blood test to check I’m ovulating, all came back good. I have regular periods, I use digital opk. Next on the list is getting my partners sperm count checked.

I’ve just done an early pregnancy test and it’s negitive, I almost expect it now. I’m just becoming despondent. Naturally everyone around me is getting pregnant and I never expected that I would struggle.

Can miscarriage change your body? I had a scan to check there were no retained products, I haven’t had any pain.

I admit that it is beginning to get to me but up until recently I haven’t been overly stressing about it. If one more person tells me to just relax or gives me a story about “a friend of theirs who....” I’ll lose my mind!!

Hey,

It took me 6 months to conceive first time around. Unfortunately that ended in a mc. After that it took me 14 months to get pregnant again and ended in another mc. I started using opks to help understand my cycle. So used opks for 2 cycles and that's what helped me get pregnant the second time. So if you're not already doing this perhaps it may help. It turned out I was ovulating later in my cycle than I thought. So I'm going to be using them again and fingers crossed it's 3rd time lucky for me. I also have suspected endo. So I think that also had a part to play in how long it took me.
I can understand how frustrating it can be to hear people tell you to relax and it'll happen because it feels like you've been patient enough. All I can say is if you're not tracking your cycles already then it may help, at least then you know you have given each cycle every possible chance you can and you can't do anymore than that. Have you heard of SMEP? It could be worth looking it up. We loosely followed it and for a lot of women it can really help.

Best of luck to you and I hope 2019 brings you the baby you are longing for.
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