Hello!
I don’t know if this is the right thread but feeling on my own with this so here goes.
I’m 38 (not quite sure how that happened!) and 39 this year. Anyway, age trauma aside, I have no children yet. Met my partner when I was 28 ish. We started casually trying in summer 2015, not like obsessively but enough for what we hoped would’ve become a happy accident.
It’s been really hard with friends and seemingly every other random person getting accidentally pregnant in that time. Really hard! I’m not bitter but obviously you think why not us if people weren’t expecting it.
In this time, my periods have become horrific. I’ve had smears/scans/investigative procedures etc and they’ve said it’s maybe just the way I am. There isn’t anything ‘wrong’ apparently. They have always been heavy but my periods are now 7-10 days, and I’m basically pissing blood/having huge clots for 4 days- 4 pads soaked overnight some months. Normally 3 pads overnight though! I’ve never been pregnant that I know. I took the morning after pill a few times in my 20’s, mainly being a twat and making stupid decisions before this relationship. Does this affect fertility? I also had an eating disorder on and off in my teens/throughout uni. My periods only stopped once aged 17 I think for a few months.
The pain is horrific. I take transemic acid, which is supposed to reduce blood. It does help a bit. Does this affect conception?
I feel like time is just running out, and maybe getting pregnant isn’t going to happen for us and am struggling with that whilst not wanting to become totally crazy about it at the same time. I guess this is what lead me here!
I’ve rambled a bit, any helpful advice or support would be fab.