Anyone else TTC after a loss?

[MollyFaith00]

Hello ladies

I am embarking on TTC #2 ( I have an almost 3yo DD) after a late miscarriage in October at 18.5 weeks.

Anyone else trying after a loss?

Me :)

We have a ds who is 4, and have been ttc for 2 years and had 2 chemicals and a mc in September! We just had the all clear and i am now waiting to ovulate!

Sorry for your loss!

Hi,
So sorry for your loss, I know how heartbreaking it can be. I had a miscarriage at 12+3 back in October. We’re ttc number 1. Currently 2 days late for my period, fingers crossed. Going through mixed emotions though, 1 minute I’m excited and desperate to be pregnant again and the next minute I’m petrified that I’ll miscarry and I never want to go through that experience ever again.

It’s tough but hopefully we’ll all get our babies soon!

Lou

Me...

TTC number 1 after a mc at 5:1 in September.
Currently on cycle 5 since the mc and wondering if it will ever happen again as we got preg pretty quick when we started ttc.

Feel like age is against me (37).

Hi, ttc after a mc in November. Downloaded the ovia app and bought some opk tests as haven't got a clue what my body is doing now! Good luck!x

Hi ladies, sorry for your losses. Its heartbreaking. Hoping I can join your thread? I’m ttc number 1 after a loss in September at 11 weeks. Was lucky to get BFP after 2 months of trying and I stupidly thought I would have another one by the end of the year. But BFN this morning. Feeling a bit blue as the end of the year approaches and hoping 2019 is better x

@Dramaqueen14 I feel exactly the same as you... just assumed that I'd be pregnant by Christmas, totally thought I would be. So the last 4 cycles have been really tough emotionally and with no feeling of certainty now that it will happen!
BD-ing is starting to be a chore for DH who isn't happy with my obsessing. The more I try not to think about it, the more the intrusive, niggling thoughts crowd in

So sorry to hear of everyone's losses . It's so bloody hard! Especially this time of year...

Hopefully this new year will bring happiness for all of us.

I'm currently in the TWW - first ovulation since my loss and I wanted to try and stay calm/'what will be will be' about it but I'm obviously not am desperate to test already and I'm only about 3dpo.

How do you ladies distract yourselves?! x

@MollyFaith00 I know exactly how you feel! I’ve just finished my first complete cycle since my MC and had everything crossed I would fall. I was so obsessed I started testing from 5dpo! My af was 3 days late and I was convinced I was pregnant. Af turned up this morning.
Need a new outlook for this next cycle otherwise I’m going to drive myself and my husband crazy. Going to give my husband the left over tests and not test until af is late.
I never thought ttc could cause the range of emotions it has so far!! It’s a rollercoaster of a journey.

It’s so nice to speak to others who know how I’m feeling. Nobody else gets it. Glowing twigs - I know exactly how you mean about bd becoming a chore. How do you stop that?! Think my dh started to pick up I was like that during last fertile window and I don’t want it to be like that!

Mollyfaith - I don’t know how to distract during tww I try and keep busy, work late and I somehow spend more time cleaning the house. I need some fun things for during my next tww!

Lou - I need a new outlook next cycle too. I convinced myself I was pg this month and was googling every little thing my body was doing. It’s not easy to chill out about it though!

I’m off to get ready for NYE. We are going out with friends for dinner and back to one of theirs to see in the new year. It’s the first year DH isn’t working for 7 years so going to try and enjoy it engenders though I’m feeling quite sad about things. Hope you are all ok xx

@Dramaqueen14 it certainly is great to have people to talk to. I’ve been lurking on this forum for ages but have only just decided to start posting - so glad I did.
Googling became my downfall too, everything can be a symptom according to the internet, not helpful! There should be some sort of block you can put on to stop google answering!
It doesn’t help that I still get emails through updating me on my pregnancy each week. Tried to stop them but it hasn’t worked. On Tuesdays I have to get my husband to delete all my emails for me.

We’ve got family coming round tonight for NYE, just a few drinks and seeing the new year in together. Didn’t want to be out and about around people this year.
Have a lovely dinner with your friends and I have everything crossed that 2019 will be our year!

Lou

@Dramaqueen14 I don't know how to stop it being a bit mechanical... the doctor said to just have regular sex and not think too much about timing, just go away and have fun. But I find that so hard to do because I want to catch the egg at the best time!! So poor DH was pressed into service this morning as he is working late tonight.

Does anyone else just feel deeply sad/miserable this NYE? I've been teary all day in the house on my own watching Call the Midwife!

Doesn't help that my opks are usually darkening up by now (since the mc I've ovulated cycle day 12) but maybe that means I'm getting back to my normal ov day on day 13 or 14... my AF lasted a few days longer this month too- would that make ovulation later does anyone know?

X

Just a note to wish you all a happy new year - hoping 2019 is our year ladies!! x 🤞🏽

It's definitely hard and I do feel low. My husband was just saying that if we hadn't had our loss we would be getting on for 7 months by now which is so sad. Also another friend announced they are expecting a second baby today. I'm so happy for them but also it just highlights what we have lost.

Ho hum. Sorry - not very jolly for New Years!!

But here's hoping for 2019

(Ps: I also don't take for granted that we do have our DD which I know is a complete blessing, we are lucky and I know I can't grumble to much)

What makes it worse is i work with a women who is pregnant and due 5 days before my due date!

But it is what it is!

When i first loss the baby the docs all said i had to wait for 3 cycles to try again. But due to investigations it's actually worked out that long anyway

I usually ovualte on cd 14 but last month it was cd 19. I use opks and ovia!

Hi everyone, can I join? I had a miscarriage in October at 12+2. I'm really struggling, I had hoped that I'd have gotten pregnant first cycle after the miscarriage because they say that you're meant to be more fertile for 3 months after a miscarriage but I guess not. I'm terrified I won't be able to get pregnant again but also terrified of getting another bfp and having to go through another loss... I'm currently on CD 10 of cycle 2 since the MC.

Sorry for all of your losses :(

I’ve had a really tough day today. All I can think about is that 2019 was meant to be the year we had our little blueberry. I should have been exactly 23 weeks pregnant today, instead I woke up with my period and waning hope for the future as a family of 3. The thought of our little baby consumes me and I would give anything to be pregnant again.
@Beaglemum93 like you, I thought I’d be pregnant by now. Miscarried on 19th Oct and was also told that you are more fertile in the first 3 months. Clearly not in our case. I’ve found my period really difficult to handle this cycle. I’m sure once it’s over in the next couple of days my hope and positivity will return but it sucks right now.

Knowing how horrible this is to go through, I hope you all had a good New Year’s Eve and managed to celebrate in some way.

In response to a question earlier, when we conceived first time I was just using the app Ovia. Since I miscarried I started using opks as well as the app. I’m taking prescription strength folic acid, vitamin d and Aspirin and then have added in inositol that I read helps with PCOS. Fingers crossed for the next cycle.

Lou

Hi Ladies,

I’m really sorry for all your losses. I had a MMC at 11 weeks in August with my first pregnancy and have also had what seems like everyone tell me that I should conceive really easily immediately after. Each month that goes by leading up to my original due date is just making me more and more anxious as for some reason I have a self imposed deadline that I have to be pregnant again by then.

My poor DH has no idea the extent to which I dissect my cycles and symptoms daily or even hourly during this TTC process. I feel like my pain is compounded by my working in HR and having to offer smiles, congratulations and maternity advice to 6 women within my company who are all due within 4 weeks of when my little one should have arrived.

I am on CD5 and trying to put on a brave face for this new year as I believe there will be better things in store for us all