Do I have time to wait a little longer or should I hurry up

[maybenotsureshallI]

I’m 37 in Feb
Baby is 12 months old. We had always said when he’s 2 we would try for another but suddenly I’m worrying will that be silly? By then I’ll be nearly 38....
but I didn’t want too small a gap, but I’d rather have a smaller gap than to then find myself unable to conceive again
Also still bf but having regular cycles so not sure if bf would mean currently I wouldn’t get pregnant anyway???

I’d crack on if you want another one.

I am an outlier, but I had DD2 when I was 34 and I have not had a viable pregnancy since (I always wanted 3 or 4 kids) , in spite of my best efforts, IVF etc. The timing is rarely excellent, and while most women will not share my experience I just think getting on with it is the way to go if you can.

Polly99 I am sorry you have not had any luck even with ivf that must be so so hard I’m really sorry
I think you may be right it’s just suddenly hit me that waiting another year might be a really bad idea

If you can cope with getting pg immediately then I would crack on. I advise any woman over 30 who is in the right circumstances to get on with it. Fertility struggles suck.

Over 30 in the right circumstances who know they want a baby! Not just anyone!

Two things might affect success:

1. Family history. It can follow that if the females in your family have managed to successfully reproduce into their 40s say it’s probable (but not guaranteed) you would be able to as well. Again though, this is NOT failsafe.

1. Age of your DH. To be quite frank it does matter as does his lifestyle etc. When speaking about TTC at 35+ it’s common to assume that “it’s a woman’s problem”. No no no.

Basically yes, crack on. I had DC1 at 34, DC2 at 35 and DC3 will be at 37. If we are lucky enough and 3CS’ doesn’t fuck me DC4 will arrive when I’m 40.

I really don’t want to be above that and having anymore kids.

Good luck and bonk away. Xx

I was in a similar situation a couple of years ago at same age. Ended up waiting until no 1 was 18 months and got pregnant pretty much straight away. Tbh would have preferred a slightly bigger age gap (not that it's especially small, 2years 3months) for various reasons and so sometimes wish I had been a bit less impatient, especially as we aren't going to have any more. Still, much better this than fertility problems after waiting.

I was also having regular cycles but stopped breastfeeding when he was 17 months and we decided to try again. Think it was a mistake to run the two things together so much though, and this was how I did feel my age -- extremely knackered and undernourished and lost a lot of weight between pre-first prgenancy and now, and have never got energy levels back. So a couple of months of focusing on your health, exercising, building yourself up to go through it all again might be a good idea!