Am I deluding myself? Secondary infertility age 43

[AquaFaba]

Feeling slightly sorry for myself...AF started today. I had hoped for a Christmas surprise as we are ttc #2.

I feel at a crossroads and v downbeat. I’m 43.

Met my OH late in life and had DS1 in Sept 17, aged 41. We had a mc a couple of months before conceiving him so felt very blessed to have him.

Since earlier this year we have been ttc #2 but it’s just not happening.

I stopped bf in March and conceived in May but had a mc in June.
Very depressed afterwards and didn’t start trying properly until Sept.
Nothing working since then.

DS teething has meant I’m getting up lots, so I am tired, and I’ve felt so dispirited that I’ve stopped taking folic acid and b vitamins (self sabotage)

I started doing fertility acupuncture in Dec and the acupuncturist says my chi (energy) is weak.
Cycle every 23-24 days, ovulate day 9 or 10.

What to do from here on? Just keep on trying or seek help? From whom?
Or just accept this is likely the end of the road?
(FWIW I don’t think I’m perimonopausal as mum went through menopause late 40s)

Thank you x

I would just keep trying and stay positive. Do the acupuncture. Make sure your diet and exercise are tip top. Relax and hopefully it happens soon. Not easy I know...but it seems the more relaxed you are the better chances.

Hi OP, no I dont think you are deluding yourself.
Especially since you conceived this year. Sorry it didn’t work out that time but it’s a great sign. I don’t think you’ve been trying very long in real terms and the fact that you’re still up in the night with a teething toddler won’t help!
I’m 42(43 in the spring) and am ttc #3. There are loads of us over 40, some 45+ on the thread ‘Over 40 ttc’. Come and join us. We’d love to have you.