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Christmas drinking!!

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dreaming174 · 21/12/2018 05:57

Just found out I'm 5 weeks along. We have several family (my side) occasions coming up where I would normally get very Merry with my family. Obviously I can't now and I know it will raise some questions and suspicions.

We have a family dinner on Sunday night. Is it weird to tell people this early? If so, what is my excuse?! It would be nice to share the news then as it will be the last time were all together as my husband and I live abroad. I'm afraid of telling people then it all going wrong and not sticking.

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rabbitfoodadvocate · 21/12/2018 06:01

It's up to you how early you tell but I found it easier to go down the "I'm on antibiotics" route!

Pinklittle · 21/12/2018 06:06

I was quite a big drinker while out before I got pregnant so knew everyone would guess on social gatherings if I wasn't drinking. I told my two best friends early on and they helped me out by going in rounds and ordering me a fake g & t (just the tonic) it worked for me and when we told everybody at 13 and a half weeks they were all shocked! Maybe tell a close relative and see if they could help you out in the same way my friends did? Congratulations x

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dreaming174 · 21/12/2018 07:05

So what you're both saying is that it is a little odd to tell my family? I would like to tell them, but as none of my friends have babies yet so I'm not sure if it's seen as 'jumping the gun' a little.

Unfortunately my family have very big mouths, so telling one would be telling them all!

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Hiphopopotamous · 21/12/2018 07:13

5 weeks is a bit early to tell EVERYONE.
Not to be a downer on your great news but the miscarriage rate this early on is around 20%, dropping to 2% after 8 weeks (if heartbeat).
I'm telling my family at Christmas, I will be 11w and scan was fine. Up until now I have just poured myself a small glass of wine so my glass always looks full and put it to my mouth as if to drink. They will be surprised!!!

Pinklittle · 21/12/2018 07:26

Totally up to you Hun, we told family at 9 weeks if that helps x

duplodancer · 21/12/2018 07:39

Do whatever you feel you want to.
I was at a hen weekend at 8 weeks so sort of had no choice. I decided I didn't want to bother sneaking around lying and pretending. Having had a miscarriage prior to that pregnancy I also knew it wouldn't be something I felt the need to hide from my close friends if it did happen so it mattered less for me.

someoneseatenmyapple · 21/12/2018 07:40

Tell them you are on antibiotics so you can't drink.

2isabella2 · 21/12/2018 07:44

If you tell them you're on antibiotics you may as well just say you're pregnant, very few people believe that! I told my very close family immediately - I'd have wanted them to know if I miscarried. It's totally up to you.

bonniebanks · 21/12/2018 07:49

Both times I told my immediate family within a few days of testing so around 5 weeks, the way I looked at it was if I did have a miscarriage I would tell them so why not just tell them I was pregnant to start with. I totally understand why people don't do this though and I would go down the antibiotic route.

PurpleDaisies · 21/12/2018 07:55

Everybody knows “I’m on antibiotics” means “I’m pregnant”.

PurpleDaisies · 21/12/2018 07:56

It’s not that hard to take a glass of wine to hold but not really drink it.

Tinkeytonkoldfruit · 21/12/2018 07:59

My rule was I only told people I'd also be ok talking to / knowing about me having a miscarriage if it happened. So I told my parents & best friends because I'd need them either way. Your partner making you fake g&ts is easy. Or the I'm sooooo hungover from last night I can't drink today option is also possible.

originalusernamefail · 21/12/2018 07:59

I think it depends on what you would usually share with your family. If they would support you through difficult times go ahead. As I happened for me I had hyperemesis gravidarum from about 6 weeks on so it abundantly obvious to the world and it’s wife from then on Envy(not envy). Congratulations on whatever you decide OP Flowers

KathyBates · 21/12/2018 08:19

congratulations!!

I was in this boat last year!!! Don't tell anyone you're on antibiotics, that just makes everyone think your pregnant (even when you're not!).

Have a glass of wine in your hand, try to casually swap glasses with your partner. After the first one you could say a little white lie and say something about having a heavy night the night before and that first glass didn't go down well.

I did get rumbled by MIL but it was hard not to as we were staying at her house for a week x

Jackshouse · 21/12/2018 08:21

I think antibiotics screams pregnancy.

I am in my 4th pregnancy and I have had two miscarriages. I would say tell the people who you would tell if you were to have a miscarriage.

Having a dodge tummy or a big night the day before is always a good excuse.

costacoffeecup · 21/12/2018 08:23

Yeah say you're really hungover and can't face more booze.

mortifiedmama · 21/12/2018 08:48

Grab a glass of whatever you normally drink and occasionally put it to your lips, wave it around etc. No one will notice you not actually drinking it.

Or tell people. But once you tell people you can't control who does or doesn't know (even if you ask them not to say anything) and if something goes wrong you'll have to tell them.

There are only a few antibiotics you can't drink on and they are rarely prescribed. It's a bad lie that everyone sees through.

SauvingnonBlanketyBlanc · 21/12/2018 08:52

Dh told his family when I was 5 weeks now have a ds 4, telling people doesn't jinx you x

SauvingnonBlanketyBlanc · 21/12/2018 08:53

Could you have plain tonic and pretend to put gin or vodka in?

TokenGinger · 21/12/2018 08:55

Just say you had a heavy night the night before and can't face anything today.

I told my brother and my mum around 7 weeks, but on the proviso that they keep it to themselves. My mum is naturally a gossip and I'd have been absolutely furious if she'd shared my news, when it's mine to share at the right time. If your family has big mouths as you say, I wouldn't want to tell them, unless you're happy untelling the entire family if anything goes wrong.

Mamabear12 · 21/12/2018 10:08

It’s not odd at all to tell the family. Some people won’t tell anyone until 12 weeks and some tell all. I was in the camp of telling all 😀 at least sharing w family and close friends. I did explain it’s still very early stages etc. I figured if something went wrong I would want them all to know anyway what I was going through. Luckily both times everything went well.

Mamabear12 · 21/12/2018 10:09

Also, you could make drinks that look like cocktails. Water w slice of lime in 😉 or juice w lemon slice. Sparkling apple juice for champagne. Etc

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