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Very senstive post but I need someone to talk to.

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Starry1234 · 13/12/2018 22:36

I’m really sorry if anyone finds this upsetting. I’m just trying find some possible answers. I found out I was pregnant on the 1st of December. On the 11th I started bleeding. It was bright red and was in the toilet when I went. It was there when I wiped and also in my underwear. I called the nhs and they got me in at the hospital to be checked. They did a pregnancy test and that came back negative. I was distraught. I carried on bleeding but not heavy. The next day I had a significant amount of blood. I went to see my doctor who again did a test. Negative. He explained everything to me much more deeply. He said I could possibly have a scan at epu next week as i was only 5 weeks. So here’s the odd bit (for me any way). All I have had is blood. Today is the 3rd day and I have very dark brown blood/discharge. I’ve had no clots. No cramps. No pain. Absolute nothing but the blood. Yesterday morning I did a test and it was a faint positive. The docs test was done yesterday evening. I’ve never experienced this before. Or really known about miscarriage. My question is, has anyone who has had a miscarriage experienced this and had a confirmed one? Or has anyone had this bleeding at this stage and the pregnancy was in fact still there? And stuck? My symptoms have gone. Boobs feel fine. I’m not as tired and no sickness. Which I did experience. The doctor said that it probably happened a few weeks ago and my body is just expelling it now. I’m not thinking I still am pregnant. Maybe I’m just hanging on to that little bit of hope. Me and partner where trying. And this has broken my heart. I have had a healthy pregnancy previoulsy which went full term. I’m really just looking for someone to talk to about this that had maybe experienced it. Thank you in advance for taking your time out to read ❤️ And so sorry to all the ladies who’ve lost a pregnancy

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Sweepington · 13/12/2018 22:39

So sorry about your situation, OP. I have no advise but can offer a hand hold.

Youcantscaremeihavechildren · 13/12/2018 22:43

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I had a miscarriage at about 8 weeks, similar thing but did have some cramping. Although I had lots of bleeding there wasn't nearly as much as I expected, it happened over a weekend, so by the time I got checked out at the epu there wasn't anything left. They did a blood test, plus another a week later to check for falling hgc levels, might be worth asking for that. But as an early loss, I think sometimes it can be very little amounts. That's not yo belittle what you're feeling, I was so upset and still think about it 4 years on. The nurse I saw made light of it and I hated that. Maybe see how you go, book an appointment if you're still getting positives, as they should stop.
I had a 3 year old at the time and now have a lovely 3 year old after, no reason for it and everything fine 3rd time around. Take care of yourself x

Kintan · 13/12/2018 22:44

Sorry for your loss. I think that some test are more sensitive that others, so you are probably just seeing the leftover HCG on your home test. It took 10 days after my m/c to get s negative on one of the super sensitive tests. x

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Starry1234 · 13/12/2018 23:39

Thank you for replying. I really appreciate it. I’m so up and down at the minute. I’m crying and then I’m fine. I think it’s becuse I had all these vision of my baby and bump and it just got taken away so quickly. I know I was early but I was just so happy. I’m just heartbroken. All the happiness is just gone from me. Thank you so much for replying though

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Starry1234 · 14/12/2018 21:01

Did a test this morning and it was negative. I feel I can accept that now and move on as best I can. Thank you to everyone who replied.

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MrsP4 · 14/12/2018 21:34

@Starry1234 Oh my god! Can't believe it just clicked on this post and saw your name and started reading! 😩 So sorry that this has happened to you! Sending you lots of love, here hand holding for you xx

Ozziewozzie · 14/12/2018 21:53

Hi, firstly I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s never straight forward in my experience. I too had tonnes of questions and even when answered, I’d have tonnes more by the time I got home.

I had a miscarriage last year in Jan. I was supposed to be about 9 weeks pregnant. I started bleeding like a light period, bright red so went to epu for a scan. They told me baby was at 5 weeks but no heart beat so obviously had died a few weeks ago. They sent me home and said I’d start bleeding a lot more over next few days. Next morning I bled profusely, but bizarrely no pain what so ever. Really large clots, like satsumas. Got to a &e and it turned out I was heimorraging. This is incredibly rare though. Apparently it only happens about once in 5 years.
The rain I’m telling you this is because after this I fell pregnant again. Incredibly heavy bleeding, literally pouring (tmi) plus very large clots. rushed to a & e, yet bizarrely, when scanned, the baby was moving, good heart beat. 6 months later, baby born. Even the staff at hospital were amazed all was ok as they’d all assumed I was miscarrying again.

There literally is no easy way to tell from just symptoms alone. The best way is a scan/ blood test or preg test in a few days. I really wish you well. It’s an awful time, it really is. X

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Starry1234 · 16/12/2018 22:44

@MrsP4 sorry I’ve just clicked on here. Trying to avoid it since what happened. Thank you though. I’m getting a bit better but finding it hard still.

@ozziewozzie thank you for sharing your story. I feel I’m not going to be pregnant again. I feel quite low and also worried if I do in fact become pregnant again that I’m going to be over anylising everything. Going to be stressed and worried constantly. Because I was only 5 weeks the doc wouldn’t refer me to epu as they simply wouldn’t accept me. Should I be scanned to be checked nothing is left over? I just don’t know where to begin or even know how to put one foot in front of the other at the moment

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MrsP4 · 16/12/2018 23:18

@Starry1234 Oh bless you! I can only imagine how you must be feeling, but know that your not alone and there's so much support out there, I'm not too sure in regards to the scan but I thought they would have to make sure there's nothing left like you said, I know that TTC again is probably not on your mind right now but please don't lose hope, I think a lot of women tend to be quite fertile after MC from what I've read and thats what the SMEP was originally for. Xx

yellowsparkles · 16/12/2018 23:32

I've had 3 miscarriages 2 of which as you have described and quite early on.

The first one I had was nearer 14 weeks and I had clots and a lot of pain/ cramping.

My other 2 though equally heart breaking were before 6 weeks and were somewhat like a heavy period if this helps at all.

Give your body lots of time to heal and you'll need time to rest both physically and emotionally, it is a huge factor in your body and your mind.

If I can be if anymore help feel free to send me a message Thanks

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