Me and my partner have been trying for the best part of a year and nothing has happened so far. I had my coil out in nov last year and had my first period beginning of January.
Unfortunately my partner has had a bad depression episode amd has had to go on tablets. The unfortunate side effect he always gets from taking antidepressants is that he cannot orgasm during sex. Sorry for TMI. The good news is that he can achieve this through a hand job by me so we have decided to, whilst he is on the antidepressants, try with a syringe Etc.
The problem is I don't even know where to start. I ideally would like to buy a syringe and extender and a specimen pot. Some of these on amazon are £60 and I can't.really afford that during Christmas.
Selfishly I have to admit I'm devastated that he's on the tablets. I want him to be well and I wanted him to get right. It's just seems another hurdle. Nothing seems to be easily attainable to me. I'm sorry for the poor me attitude but I bet some people on here that felt like that.
Time is more on my side as I'm 32 but my partner is 52 and we would like it sooner rather than later.
It really doesn't help that all around me, friends, colleagues, bloody people on fb ate pregnant and all I can see around me is pregnant people and it really really hurts my heart. I want it so bad. It also doesn't help that I have anxiety and a tilted cervix. I was pregnant before when I was 20 but me and my current partner weren't ready as we had just got together. For reasons due to my anxiety and getting it under control, it's only been last year that I felt ready to.
Part of me worries if my termination has caused me any problems. I have a regular period since I had the coil removed.
Sorry for blabbing it all out here but it really helps to just let out my darkest fears. Deep down I know it does take some people a while to get pregnant and it looks like I am one of those. Can someone who has experienced what I am please offer some advice? I feel pretty low atm. I am trying to keep to myself as I don't want to burden my partner with my selfish feelings. He is doing so much better on them and he is aware that I'm finding this difficult but I don't want to make him feel like it's his fault when it isn't but I feel bereft.