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Not really sure what I’m asking - reassurance?

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Blii · 09/12/2018 20:12

Hello, first post on new account (left mumset a few years ago).
So we have been trying to convince since April this year. In July I had a BFP which sadly ended in a very very early miscarriage or possible chemical.
Period was due 6th Dec and today I have a BFP!
I’m terrified, terrified it’s going to end again like it did before. I have no symptoms, I felt a little sickly yesterday but I’m not sure if it’s because of this cold I have. I have been having mild cramps on and off today but no sick feeling.
With my previous successful pregnancies I had pretty bad Hyperemesis and I can’t remember when it all started. I know each pregnancy is different but I am expecting to feel terrible again and I’m kind of willing it on even though I know I will hate every second of it. At least I know something is going on if I feel sick.
I want this so much.
I don’t really know what I’m asking, just wanted to write this down really. I know I have to just wait and see. I’m scared!

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Funkyemzie · 10/12/2018 23:44

Aww sweetie, I noticed nobody had commented on this and I think all you really need is a hand hold!

It's ok to be scared, it's completely natural, I know that fear of complete dread when you see that second line. I have a DD (she's 11 now) and had 2 MC's this year after deciding to try for our second. You need to take the first steps and contact your gp first of all. Also, if it helps you should call your local EPU and get their advice. How far along are you?

You just need to take it a day and a time and try not to compare pregnancies, like you said, each one is different, try and confide your emotions to your OH or on here, it helps. I really hope things go ok for you and you have an uneventful pregnancy!

Good luck sweetie and for what it's worth, congratulations. ❤

webster144 · 11/12/2018 11:36

Hi @Blii ....looks like we're in the exact same boat! I got my BFP on Sunday too after a year of trying, including one MC and one chemical.

It's such a stressful but exciting time and feel exactly the same, I can't help but worry and freak out at the smallest thing, I too have very little symptoms, I actually only took a pregnancy test on Sunday as my period was due the following day and as I'd had a very strong positive OPK which I thought was weird, but I have had no symptoms really at all.

I reached out yesterday to my EPU for a reassurance scan at 8 weeks because of my previous history of MC which unfortunately isn't until start of Jan, and I've got an appointment today with my gp to discuss and hopefully get some bloods taken as I'm keen to know if anything is low such as progesterone etc. I'm also going to ask about taking baby aspirin as I've heard this can be good for women who have had previous mc?

My best advice would be to reach out for help and don't be scared to ask questions, or request scans or tests, if it puts your mind more at rest in the next few weeks you could book yourself in for a private early scan if the GP or EPU aren't keen to (I know too a lot of people can't afford to like myself) and in the meantime I would speak to your GP or EPU and make sure they have done necessary tests which might give you a little more reassurance, it's good to speak to someone and let them know your concerns!

I know it's easier said than done not to worry, as I'm trying to tell myself that every moment of today...but what will be will be. I hope you start to feel a little more confident, our bodies are so amazing and a pregnancy is an absolute miracle, try to keep calm and tell yourself each day "everything will be fine" because it will be! I hope you have a healthy and happy 9 months, keep us updated x

Blii · 11/12/2018 11:52

Thank you both for your kind words, that’s made me tear up webster144 (pregnancy symptom? Grin )
I have been reading the august 2019 posts and it seems lots of people are in the same position. It does make it feel a lot easier knowing I am not alone. I was definitely thinking of having a reassurance scan. I know the o my thing that will put my mind at ease. Thank you both for replying. Keep us updated with you too webster144

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