TTC second time round

[mrscatmad31]

Currently TTC number 2, started TTC earlier in the year but stopped and changed jobs, just started TTC again. I really want another child and so does my husband but we have a tiny house and we are in debt so i alternate between thinking we should not have anymore kids and thinking that we should just go for it, just cant think about this objectively. I had PND last time and struggled to bond with my DD so wondering if this is why im conflicted on whether its the right thing to do. Is it normal the second time round to be more worried about it all?

Hi Mrs cat, I think it’s totally normal to feel like that!
We’re TTC our 2nd as well and definitely feel more nervous this time around. Perhaps because with your first you can be slightly naive about how hard it can all be! I had an awful experience with my first pregnancy and every month that goes by theres the tiniest bit of me that is thankful I’m not pregnant. As much as I really want a 2nd I’m feeling very anxious about the actual pregnancy. I hate the thought of being so ill and it affecting me as a mum for my DD.
Someone said to me recently “it’s always worse thinking about it rather then actually doing it” sometimes we worry unnecessarily because our minds run away with us I guess.
We all know as mums what is best for our family x

Ahh thank you! All i can think about is the sleepless nights and sorting out childcare, i think when/if i get pregnant it will be out of my hands then so i will feel happier. I do suffer with anxiety anyway so im not the most relaxed person

I’m worried about being pregnant with a 2nd as well. We’ve just decided to try for another (DS is nearly 3).

With DS I was useless from about week 7 to week 13/14 as I felt so ill. I’m worried as I don’t have that option again with a active toddler! I keep telling myself that I felt better in the 2nd trimester, so hopefully it would be the same again.

Currently pregnant with DC2 and after a horrendous time with terrible sickness and early pregnancy bleeding with the first, this one is going very differently! Managed to go to work every day, only been a tiny bit sick about 3 times, no worrying bleeding.
All pregnancies are different and because you struggled once doesn't mean you will again.