Trying to conceive, nervous and anxious

[IrishCypriot]

Hello all
First post on Mumsnet so please let me apologise if this is a repeating thread!

Backstory:
Met DH at 19, him 21
Together almost 8 years
got married Feb, stopped “not trying”
Honeymoon in Oct, started really trying

Already getting neurotic! Have to wait 5 days for a pregnancy test and I’ve done 2 - both negative obviously. 4 family members due babies in Summrr next year so that’s adding to the pressure and worry.

Need tips on how to calm myself down as I know it’s not always immediate nor good for the soul (ie womb) to worry!!

Also would like to know I’m not the only one who is/was like this during the TTC period (excuse the pun!)

Didn't want to read and run! I was exactly the same, newly married this year did the whole not really trying and nothing happened. Decided to start using OPKs and really pinpointed ovulation and we got our BFP!

Try to enjoy it as much as you can, remember a healthy couple can take up to a year to conceive. Although I realise this advice is not the most helpful when you just want something now! You're definitely not alone.

Thank you @MyloC, and congrats!
Reassuring that I'm not the only one to feel this way and I'll do my best to stay sane through the whole process- though hopefully won't be long before I get my own BFP!

@IrishCypriot I get you!

DH and I met at 18(him) and 22 (me) together for 12 years, married 3.

Literally EVERY time we see either his parents or mine they mention babies 🙄 we only started trying 4months ago as I had to wait until DH was ready (I have been ready for years!)
I'm stressing that I have left it too late and am too old now (34). ( also something that my parents like to remind me!!!)
A few of my close friends are pregnant, and loads of people at work!!

I have a short luteal phase since coming off the pill, and worry that i will
Have problems. Xx

Sorry didn't actually offer any tips of advice did I 😂
I could use some too! Xx

@bunhead34

Thanks for commenting! Oddly nice to hear that I am not the only one that gets badgered about it since being married.

If it helps, my mum pregnant with me and my sis at 30/34, MIL got pregnant with her only girl at 39, 2 cousins currently pregnant at 31/32 and another friend pregnant with twins at 35! So I know loads of people who have "defied the odds" and gotten pregnant after 30.

Men definitely do have it easier than us but don't let that stop you have fun trying! Also I have seen what stress does to periods and TTC, just don't do it! easier said than done but what will be, will be. Worrying isn't going to help anyone.

Couldn't wait on doing a test - think I got a really faint positive but now I have to wait 4 days to know if it's true or not. Agonising!

Best of luck x