5 months of BFN. What's wrong?

[Vicsleighbob]

Another BFN today after 5 months of ttc. I'm 36 and have 3 children with ExH. DH is 42 has 2 children to ExP. We would dearly love to have a child together but nothing is happening so far. I was using a contraceptive implant then the mini pill for around 4 years before we started ttc. Now I'm worried we've just left it too late and I'm kicking myself for not starting to ttc a couple of years ago.

Can secondary infertility strike after so many kids between us or are we just unlucky so far? I personally feel that I'm not ovulating (no symptoms - I've tried OPK's but the results are difficult to read) but am worried about seeing the GP. We don't want ttc to take over our lives for the sake of our existing children, so have said if it doesn't happen then that's fine, but I'm actually starting to feel really down about it now.

Sorry for rambling, I just wondered if anyone had any wise words?

It takes about 6 months on average to get pregnant, and healthy couples with no fertility issues can still take a year.

Try and remember that each month you only have around a 20% chance of conceiving, even if you time everything correctly etc.
Are your cycles regular? If so chances are you are probably ovulating. If the results are confusing could you try the digital OPKs for a month or so as they're clearer?

As you're over 35 you can see the GP for investigations after 6 months, but try to be kinder to yourself and be patient (much easier said than done, I know). I hope you get a BFP soon, good luck xx

I should add that all 3 of my previous pregnancies happened within 3 months or less, although it is 8 years since I was last pregnant. I know it's early days but I genuinely feel that my body just isn't working. I get absolutely no OV symptoms. I'm broken and heading for your menopause aren't I 😞

Took us 6 months to fall pregnant with DC3 I am now ten weeks..
I heard they say upto a year for a fertile couple isn't abnormal

Thank you for your replies. I know it's only 5 months but I honestly feel like it's not going to happen for us at this stage in our lives.

My cycles have been regular for the past 4 months, around 26 or 27 days but my AF has only been lasting 1-3 days which I think may be a problem in itself.

I'm going to get Christmas out of the way and then re-evaluate. I think I may need some medical intervention but I have no clue what that might be.

OP maybe try temping to work out if you’re ovulating. I struggle with OPKs too but temping has been a revelation. It does take a couple of months for the pattern to emerge but it’s really helped me. (I wasn’t ovulating for a few years but know I’m relatively regular now.)

5mths is really nothing. A year is completely normal. I didn’t have DS until a few months before my 40th so I’m sure you haven’t left it too late x

Thanks everyone. I know I'm probably just being silly. We'll keep going for now and see what happens....