28 ttc first time - mixed emotions? still having your own identity, holidays and achieving

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i'm 28, self employed hair model, married to my husband for 4 years together 8, hes 31..

we have just started ttc for the first time.. its exciting yet scary. we have a pretty cool life, we go on holidays, we own a house, have a dog, we enjoy ourselves and we are always doing stuff or going somewhere we arent the type of couple who 'need' a child to have a purpose because we already have purpose and reason, ive never felt i've needed a child to make me whole, the last few months ive changed my mind on motherhood slightly a lot to do with the fact i have endometriosis and we were alwasy waiting ' for the right time' like some rainbow would appear but actually we released theres never a right time and how we would love parenthood infact. i do think how awesome our little family would be and of course how hard it would be also.

my main worry is the loss of identity. ive seen some friends have a baby and they never leave the house and ive seen others, travelling around the world with the baby and going places but including the child, ive always wanted to be the latter still doing things but in a different way and its exciting we can provide a child with some fun travel as a family.

anyone else felt like this or gone on to have children and still achieved the things they wanted to do but as a family?

I felt very similar to you. We take a very practical approach to parenting in that our daughter (18 months) does just come along with us when we are doing things. To an extent we do have to compromise (like if she misses her nap during the day then the night is horrendous) but generally we do still do a lot. I'm looking forward to when she is older and we can do more than she will enjoy too.

I have some friends who since having kids that is the only thing going on in their life. I love my daughter but spending every minute of every day with her would drive me crazy. I'm happy to be back at work etc. Parenthood is what you make it really.

This question will be answered differently by every person, because everyone is different. A baby doesn't stop your life unless you want/Let it... I personally am not a 'go out and get it' kind of person, I love my nights in with my husband and daughter and our holidays together in the UK, having a child makes everything so much more exciting because not only are you looking forward to how much YOU are going to enjoy it but you really look forward to how much your child is going to enjoy it! Like holidays, swimming, Christmas it becomes so much more exciting because you wonder how they are going to react.... there's not one day that goes by that I don't look at my DD and feel so incredibly blessed to have her! She makes me laugh everyday!