Fed up

[whyhaveidonethis]

This is our first cycle after I came off the pill in Sept. I'm not temping or anything but my app is saying that I should have ovulated on Friday. I'm fairly certain that I didn't. No EWCM etc. So DP and I have need DTD everyday anyway just to cover our bases. After today I won't see him for a week so we had planned to dtd before he left to give a bit of coverage in case I ovulate in the next 5 days.

So we set the alarm early and gave ourselves time and then he said he didn't really feel up to it!

Ffs. I said but we will miss this cycle and he said we'll we can always try next month, there's no rush!! I'm effing 40. Of course there is a rush. I'm livid with him and he's gone now.

He really does want this baby but he's never really been into morning sex which was why we set the alarm to get up early for lots of foreplay.

Can't believe how pissed off with him I am.

I know it's hard but you need to let it go. Don't make an enemy out of eachother over sex in the first month. It's only going to make things much much harder. We had sex way more this fertile window than usual, and the day I got my opk positive surge my husband was so shattered he couldn't physically do it one more time. I was a little gutted, but I'd rather lower my chances one month than make my husband feel like shit for not having sex with me. I know it's hard, because no matter how much you both want the baby, us girls will always be the one who is taking more emotional strain. Your a team though at the end of the day :)

Thanks MsEddy for replying. I know its not worth arguing about so I didn't but I just feel like crying. I suppose it's not helping that I've not been off hormonal birth control for 8 years so all my hormones are all over the place. I just know that we've missed our chance this month and it feels so crap. Plus I hate going a week without seeing him and work etc means it will be. I don't know its just really upset me.

My husband works away too so I know exactly how you feel. I get mad at him sometimes for nothing, I'm just sad he's going away and I need an excuse to be sad! He's working away for our next fertile window, and he worked away the one before this one. It's really really hard. I stropped at him about being away and how it was going to take us twice as long when we already have poor odds. I realised after how unfair of me that was. He doesn't get to choose when he's away and I just made him feel guilty for doing his job. It's hard, but you have us lot on here to sound off to over the next week while he's away! I'm sure there are a few of us who have to deal with missed opportunity because of DH job schedule.