If you're super fertile....

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Dd1 was conceived on the pill despite perfect use, no sickness, missed pills etc.

Dd2 was conceived the one time we had sex in my first month off the pill.

Dc3 we're in discussion!

Stealth boast? No. Just backstory.

I was wondering if super fertile people can be of use to those struggling. Not in terms of surrogacy/ egg donation (which I really applaud but personally couldn't do) but in the way of fertility testing to explain the differences between being highly fertile to infertility?

I'd love to be able to contribute to research if it meant other women could get pregnant.

Not really, no. Many/ the vast majority of the causes of fertility are known and can be found if the right test is done to detect that issue.

And as a former infertile (currently pregnant through ivf), it looks like just a stealth boast.

Maybe if you were offering 50 or 100 years ago it would have been helpful...

A lot of it is just down to pure luck. If you had sex one day later you may not have got pregnant with dd2 first cycle. That was just chance/luck. It's impossible to say whether you are super fertile just from those two pregnancies.

I’m sorry but that’s not being super fertile.
I don’t think this should be on a board where people are really struggling with their fertility either?
I worked in IVF for years and this just seems .. silly.

My infertility is due to endometriosis, tubal issues, premature ovarian failure, you don't have those issues and had sex at the right time well done, no tests are needed to compare us. I also know loads of people who caught first time with 1,2,3 babies and people who got pregnant on the pill, it's not foolproof. I don't think that makes you super fertile

How is that “super” fertile? You had one pregnancy using contraception. (That does, like all contraception, have a failure rate duhhh) The second was without any contraception duhhhhhhh. The third doesn’t even exist. 😂

Ok. Thanks.

What am I then? DD conceived via IVF after 18 months trying and no luck. Then I got pregnant naturally first month after I stopped EBF 🤷🏼‍♀️
I don't think it's an exact science.

I’ve had 4 pregnancies.
One took 13 months of ovulation sticks/temp tracking etc
One conceived on the pill (perfect use)
One conceived the one time we had sex in a month
One conceived first month of trying

Would that make me ‘super fertile’, or not? It’s not a thing.

Why would anyone think it's a stealth boast? It's not something you've achieved, it's just chance.

You've had three pregnancies. Your third is still cooking. That's not super fertility, unless you have had 7 losses in between. That would mean 10 pregnancies.
There are women who've had 7 pregnancies (resulting in miscarriages and no living children).
You could call those women 'super fertile' by comparison to you because they've actually conceived y times.

And in the case of 'super fertility'/getting pregnant on the pill, it's your DH with the superpowers! His swimmers are good! So it's him you can thank if you really want to hand out medals. Pills fail because of outside factors. It's not because we're just too fertile for them to handle. A flu/vomitting, heavy drinking, medication interaction, not taking the pill at the same time each day can all slightly reduce its effectiveness. It's not because we are just too fertile for our own good. Boring as it sounds, you probably didn't take your pill at around the same time each day. Simple as that and reason enough for the pill to 'fail'.

Congratulations on your 3 pregnancies. It is wonderful. But your wanting to 'contribute' to a non-existent study is a bit silly, OP. You're getting ahead of yourself.

Also my DS is 9 months old and took 9 years, 5 IVF cycles and 3 egg donors then I got pregnant naturally last month when I didn't even think we had sex. I'm a former menopausal infertile now fertile

Thanks again.

Seems a really insensitive thing to post on a board where so many ladies are struggling with fertility 

Might be an idea to just delete this thread to be honest! ❌

You’re not “super fertile”, you’re just lucky.

If you knew what it felt like not to be lucky you wouldn’t be posting stuff like this here.

I get what you mean OP but people are understandably very sensitive about the issue. I seem to remember reading that most people usually conceive within the first year of trying. Some people are very lucky and get pregnant very quickly. I have severe endometriosis but conceived the first month of trying and sadly lost that one. DD1 was conceived within 3 months, DD2 a month. My then gynaecologist said I was "super fertile and why stop at 2?" I then went on to have DS in another relationship. I know that we know what causes infertility in most cases but I get your point in looking at those who conceive quickly and easily and go on to have healthy pregnancies and babies and researching what, if anything, is the difference to see if it could help those who have difficulties.

My children were conceived without trying. It’s because I was a teenager/early twenties. I don’t think I will be very useful as a test subject. I don’t think it’s a case of super fertility so much as normal fertility vs infertility. The default position of a human being is fertility, nothing causes fertility which seems to be what you are suggesting here. The only useful research to be done is in people who suffer from infertility as that has a cause.

I don’t think you’re being insensitive OP. It was a genuine question, asking if research into some women’s ease in getting pregnant could help those who have a tougher time.
I get that it’s a touchy subject with those with fertility issues, but I don’t think the op deserved to be made to feel bad

Its not that helpful though especially if something could probably be googled

I think it’s down to luck. My first two were conceived first cycle and one try only in that cycle. Now we are trying for a third and we will be trying now 4th cycle. I think it’s mainly down to missing the date, as we keep delaying one or two days after when I think we should (bc of being tired or other things). If you happen to guess the right day and have no other issues you can get pregnant easily. But lots of women have hidden issues. Once they discover what’s causing their problem, then voila they can get pregnant. But it’s not always easy to discover and some issues need surgery. My friend took two years to conceive her first and finally after a minor surgery. Presto she was able to get pregnant straight away first two kids and she went for a third, had a miscarriage, but again went for third and twins!!! After her surgery fixed her issue, she was able to easily get pregnant. Unfortunately, not every women has the same issue, not every time is it the women! Sometimes it’s the man. Sometimes it’s diet etc.

I don't believe there is such a thing as being super fertile. We are designed to procreate. Unfortunately some people have issues which means it does not come easily or at all for them. You say it's not a stealth boast but I do find it very insensitive.

You could look up universities that do research in reproduction and contact them, or read their websites to see what current studies they're doing.

I've not heard of studies looking for the "super fertile" it's more "healthy women who menstruate and are not pregnant or breastfeeding".

I think it's unlikely that you'd be much use to studies. I actually think "super fertlity" is quite common. I'm in a FB group for my DC's birth month, so a random selection of women who have been able to have at least one child. They range from mid 20s to late 30s. About a third of these women conceived two babies in a row at first cycle attempts. Lots of the other 2 thirds managed a first cycle success once out of their two pregnancies. Plenty of these were 'oops' pregnancies using withdrawal method, while breastfeeding etc.
And there's nothing wrong with your well intended question and no reason why you have to censor what you say. I say this as a 43 year old pretty upset about current failure to conceive DC2.


You win my first ever biscuit.

I appear to be very fertile at the minute, I've conceived every month for the last 3 months. Sadly none of those pregnancies has developed past 7 weeks. Being overly fertile has the downside of your body allowing conception and implantation of embryos that have problems that mean they won't develop.