Baby dad

[Nicibaby85]

Please dont judge... i split up with my abusive ex who i was with just under 3 years. He had a vasectomy the year before i met him. Within this time i never fell pregnant... i moved away n met up with an old flame 5 days after..got drunk n stupidily had unprotected sex....which would have been around my ovulation window...i found out as my next period didnt come im pregnant.... going by my due date it gives me the date around when i met up with my old flame however im terrified that somehow my exs vasectomy has reversed and its his as i would get nothing but hell. He never wanted kids...... i know i should never have done this so soon n unprotected but well it happens.... any advise would be helpful

Normally I would say "inform both fathers" but if your ex is abusive, chances are he'd make your life hell, be abusive to the baby and you'd be stuck with him in your life.
If you're planning on ending the pregnancy, no need to tell either.
If you're planning on keeping the baby, tell the other guy and wait until the baby is born to do a DNA test.

It's your life and your choice though so do what feels right for you.

What the actual...? Why is she a "gold digging whore" for being afraid that she might be carrying her abusive ex's child?

OP it's very unlikely the baby is his an d i do not think it's a wise idea to get back in touch with an abusive man if you've managed to get free. What kind of relationship do you have with the other man? How is he likey to react to the pregnancy? Or the fact the baby may or may not be his?

Reported that shitty stirring comment.

I agree with those who have posted sensible and normal responses. Tbh it wouldn't normally cross most people's minds that a vasectomy might have reversed so I think you're probably over thinking because you are worried.

Tell the guy but don't tell your ex, unless after a dna test he is the father. Even then because he's abusive I'm not sure. You have to put your child's wellbeing first and no child needs abuse in their life.

I didnt see the comment anyway.
Yes im terrified as i wouldnt be able to get rid of him. I have had to come off most of social media as he would constantly set up new accounts etc or get other people to snoop.
The other guy is being supportive. He understands the whole situation. He hasnt asked for a dna but i have said i am more than willing to have 1 done so we r all 100% sure. In my heart i dont think its my ex's but im not able to fully enjoy my pregnancy fue to this doubt in my mind. I have looked up the chances of vasectomies reversing myself n it is very unlikely but it can happen. Thank you all for your help and advice xx

I really hope you get the best outcome.
You might want to consider getting a restraining order on your ex. Sooner or later he will find out about the pregnancy and he may not take it well.

I really don't think it's your ex's. Try to relax and enjoy your pregnancy. Definitely don't tell the abusive ex. Congratulations

Thank you all xxx

Congratulations OP.
I don’t think it’s Ex’s, but I think youre be sensible to do a DNA once the baby is here to be sure.
Do not tell ex unless you are 100% sure it’s his and even then ensure you have an excellent support system and clear boundaries (I have a child with my abusive ex)
I really hope it won’t come to this as it won’t be ex’s.