Overwhelmed and emotional

[misslea16]

Yesterday I had my first gynaecologist app regarding the next steps for fertility tests. We've been TTC now for 12 months, off the pill for 14 with what would be our first.

I went alone (OH got stuck at work) and I'm so overwhelmed by it all I don't really know what to expect. They've given me three blood tests (day 2, day 21 and rubella) and two scans (pelvis ultrasound and HSG). They've also sent my OH for testing too.

I went home and explained everything to him and felt really down and emotional about it. Not sure he understands how I'm feeling and he just doesn't get it. I was then getting ready to leave this morning for work when I got a text from my MIL saying how chuffed she was that we were wanting a family etc and that she couldn't possibly want a better mother for her grandchildren - which is lovely! But I've not even told my mum yet. I just sat and sobbed on the kitchen floor.

Think I've overreacted and I'm just extremely emotional anyway (CD 5 and just coming to the end). Anyone else at this stage and don't know what to expect next or anyone been through it now and can shed light on the scans etc. I was told last night but I was that overwhelmed it hasn't gone in!

Sorry for long post! Just needed to get it off my chest! X

Oh honey I know what you mean I've been there apart from the MIL thing. My oh isn't particularly helpful he hasn't been for his tests which is getting me proper down. Sending lots of hugs xx

I didn't want to read and run..I have no experience of these scans or tests, but I wanted to send you a virtual hug 🤗 xx

Sounds really hard at the moment, I hope that the tests help shed some light on why conception isn’t happening as quickly as you’d hoped. Try to keep busy and positive - the tests will (hopefully) show the next steps needed on the path towards parenthood.

Hi all sorry I've been awol today feeling a bit blah and pmsy

Just wanted to say that I feel your pain. We are going through almost the same thing. I have my first blood test on Monday and DH has his test at the end of Nov. Ours is because I have endometriosis so they want to check our fertility to see whether I’m better off continuing to TTC for a bit longer or whether I should have some (conception delaying) treatment first. Totally get how overwhelming it feels. There are always so many unknowns.

Also re MIL I would have reacted exactly the same way! I’m actually finding it really difficult telling people about our fertility problems. I think deep down it’s because I feel like it’s my fault... I know I shouldn’t think like that. Do you know how much your OH told her?

My MIL knows about the endo but not about the TTC or the potential impact on fertility. I probably should tell her more because if she tells me the story of her ‘accidentally falling pregnant’ whilst on holiday as her pack of bc pills was stolen one more time, I will actually cry!