Trying after a miscarriage and a chemical

[whattodo89]

Hello,

I have two children, one is 10 the other is 2. When my 2 year old was about 6 months I had a chemical pregnancy but emotionally I was fine.

In August, I had a missed miscarriage so I thought I was 8 weeks but baby had stopped at 6. I had surgical management when I should have been 12 weeks and the whole experience almost destroyed me emotionally.

I had my first period since my loss on October 8th. I got a positive ovulation test last Monday and now am just waiting. In the meantime, I'm convincing myself that my other two children were 'flukes' and that there's something wrong with me now. I'm really worried about not being able to sustain a pregnancy.

I don't really know what I'm looking to hear, I just had to get it out. This waiting is frustrating. Sorry for the long post!

Hi @whattodo89, I can totally relate to this post. I have been in a similar situation 2 dc aged 16 and 11 then a mc at 5 weeks in Feb and mmc at 10 weeks in August.
I don't have any advice to offer you just wanted to come hold your hand because I know exactly how u feel. I have felt the same thinking there must be something wrong with me or maybe im too old now. The later is ridiculous because irrational because im only 34 but grief does funny things to us.

I just want to give u some hope in the fact that i had one AF post miscarriage and am now 7 weeks pregnant again. I know its early days but I've a good feeling this time and an early scan booked in a week and a half where I'll be 8+4. Good luck to you Ttc xxxx

Aww congratulations! That's also good to know to reassure me a little. Yes I'm 29, I was 18 when I had my son so feel like maybe I only managed to carry him as I was so young and my daughter may have been pure luck. But the rational side of me knows that probably isn't the case.

That's interesting what you say about the good feeling too. I knew something wasn't 'right' with my mmc, that's why I had a scan at eight weeks despite having no symptoms. It's strange isn't it.