Conception after Miscarriage

[Delilah7]

Looking for abit of guidance and maybe reassurance. Had a miscarriage in August. First baby on 3rd cycle. It's now been three months since that miscarriage and for some reason I thought I'd be pregnant by now. Is it normal for it to take a while to get pregnant again after miscarriage. 😌

@Babycakes1989 completely agree, I'm 30 this year and that was one countdown, unlikely to happen before now but never say never.

Your right it definitely puts things into perspective and if anything think how much we will appreciate it when it happens for us all

When we found out that we miscarried the midwife said WHEN you get pregnant again not if and that's something we should remind ourselves when it's a particularly hard day

Hi ladies,

Can I join? I'm similar to a few of you I think... got pg second cycle but mc at 5:1 at the start of September and last two periods longer cycles and lighter. The biggest difference is my boobs always used to get sore and go up a size straight after ov but now they don't. 🙁 so I'm worried it's all messed up now.
Does anyone know if you can just ask for a progesterone check and what the symptoms of low progesterone are?
Good luck to everyone ttc after a mc. It's been the hardest time xx

Sorry girls I've been AWOL lots going on with dad's heart!

Sorry all your newbies have to join :(
@noimaginationatall SMEP Is good!! I'd rate doing that. I'm getting the clearblue ones next cycle so we can do it together. Xx

@Presh12345 sounds like a good idea! At least you know now what to do and go in the right direction hey! Xx

@2018isanewyear thoughts are with you honey. Defo adds pressure. I hadn't even thought about saying stuff like that could effect me so thanks for the heads up! We will get there. I hate the term ' relax and it'll happen' but it probably will!! Xx

@Babycakes1989 love to you my darling you know that xx

@Pickingflowers I was the same weeks as you so I know it can be hard. Always find myself saying I was 'only' that and I was 'early '. Doesn't matter we still lost a baby. I don't know about the progesterone but I'd like to know!! Xxx

@Delilah7 I know, it's so hard when people say things like 'at least you weren't further along' as if it should hurt less!
One thing my friend said to me which helped a lot was that there will be a baby, it's just when.
And something a poster on another thread said to me about being jealous when someone close to you has a baby or has an easy pregnancy is that you want yours and your husband's baby, not their baby. And I liked that because it's true- it's our little journey. I just wish it was easier.

My mum is not helpful. She says things like 'IF you do have children..' and then goes on to talk about working part time, or buying a new car. It's so frustrating. 😖

@Pickingflowers that must be hard for you. Shame she doesn't think about how that is making you feel!! X

@Delilah7 I think she means well and is ironically trying not to say the wrong thing. But yes, it grates!

Fx for you loads and loads.

I had people saying which I HATE so much is it wasn't meant to be. @Pickingflowers I went to the doctor's and asked for a blood test to check I'm ovulating which is the projesterone one, haven't been yet but I think I will. X

@Pickingflowers when they try harder to not say the wrong thing they end up doing so! 😂

Yeah! @Lauraliverpool or 'what will be will be'.
I just want to scream 'NO' because it has to be that our baby is in our future. I hated it! Or 'it's in the hands of Mother Nature'. Just go away is what I would think! 🙈

@Delilah7 classic mother chat isn't it?! Mine also said 'I always thought you might have a miscarriage'.

@Pickingflowers oh god, where did that even come from?!? How baffling. Maybe she was trying to reassure you in a motherly way... strange but x x

A few weeks ago I asked my local doctor to call me as I wanted my progesterone checked. I only requested it as I heard it can be a reason for Mc if low. The doctor told me as I had only had one Mc so far she wouldn’t recommend I have bloods to test it because my periods were regular before and I’m getting them back now so it is highly unlikely that my progesterone is low. Bit dissapointed as I wanted to at least have it checked by hey ho! She was really insensitive to be honest and told me she highly doubts I’ll get pregnant straight away it usually takes a lot longer after Mc. I think she was going by the book and talking out her arse If I’m honest as I have read so many new studies online that say your actually very fertile within the year after. She then went on to say ‘oh and yes I can see on your records your overweight so you need to sort that out too before trying again’ 😂 literally the quickest I’ve ever said bye and put the phone down to someone I think. I just want to say how nice it is to talk to you all and know you all know exactly how I’m feeling. Talking on here as well as many women I know who have gone through it (and all came out with their rainbow or rainbows might I add!) has got me through the last few months ❤️ Xxxx

@Delilah7 no idea! But so random. I think that she thinks I'm old as well (I'm 37) but she's managed to only hint at that so far!

@Babycakes1989 nice bedside manner eh? How rude for one thing! I've read loads that says you are more fertile after too but I think I translated that into 'straight away' so even though this is our second cycle after I'm just so desperate to be pg again that even three months seems ages. It seems to me that you only get what you want if you go private and then they are interested. I think when we get pg again I might get those bloods done privately just so we know we've done everything. But it shouldn't be that way! They don't listen to us do they?

Being able to chat to you ladies had really helped me too xx

@Babycakes1989 your doctor is a DICKHEAD. I'm sure you're aware of if you need to change stuff. They shouldn't add little digs. We are here for you xxx

@Pickingflowers oh god!! You need to zone out when she says stuff like that😂

@Pickingflowers my husband's mum she only means well but she says God willing and I don't like that either. X

@Babycakes1989 when I went to ask my GP to see for tests she was like so what is it you're worried about, like it was no big deal and I was being silly for being there. X

😶 it’s frustrating isn’t it! They clearly have never been through this before. You go over everything in your head and then again xx

@Babycakes1989 I find i go through everything in my head of a night, suddenly something will come to me. I'm so thankful I've got my little boy who brightens up my day no end I just hope I can give him a sibling. X

Hi ladies,

I haven't read the full thread - sorry for just hopping on.

I miscarried my first at 10+4 in September. Just had my first period and apart from feeling emotional it was super normal.

Think I'm about ready to try again but I'm terrified that I'm going to hate the first trimester.

Wishing everyone luck and love after the shitty trauma of MC 💚💙💜💛

@AmyRhodes I'm sorry you're here. We are here if you want a vent! X