BFP 5 day ago after TTC for 30 months now bleeding

[Dianebz1]

Been trying to conceive for 30 months, got my BFP last Thursday and this afternoon I started to bleed 😪 it's bright red in colour when I wipe and enough to stain my pants! Iv called the midwife and Iv just to monitor the bleeding/cramps etc, they can't scan me yet as I'm only 4+2 and Iv to repeat a pregnancy test next week! I'm so down and need to know if anyone has suffered similar situation and came out the other side of the tunnel with a happy ending? ..but Iv got a feeling that I might be MC, Iv had 5 before but it was 18/19 years ago before I had my sons who are 15 and 17 so I can't really remember it that well! Any success story's would be much welcome xxx

I don't know OP but I'm really hoping everything is going to be ok. You are so early it must be about the time of a normal period so maybe you will just have a super light period and it won't cause any harm to your pregnancy. Fingers crossed for you. How is the bleeding now?

@tastylancs A bit heavier this morning with small clots, Iv just took another pregnancy test and it already negative 😪 xx

Oh no. I’m so sorry Diane. So hard. Especially after ttc all this time.

Tell your body it wants to be pregnant and it can do this. Fingers crossed for you next month.

So sorry that this is happening to you

@tastylancs @Ivalueloyaltyaboveallelse thank you, im on my way to the hospital. Just phoned my midwife and she asked me to go in! Just need to keep faith, I was a Hycosy test next Thursday (due through my tubes to check for blockages and the camera) so I'm going to go ahead with that and try my best to keep positive xxx

Ok I’m glad you’ve been called in to the hospital, the more info you have the better. And yes absolutely stay positive, I believe this is so important. Stay relaxed and (I know this sounds bonkers) tell yourself that ttc is just a really fun hobby and that’s all. No biggie. X

@tastylancs well the MC I thought was confirmed, Iv also got a urine infection so they gave me antibiotics. Yes I totally agree, Im going to try and not think about it to much. I'm studying in collage to become a chef just now so that occupies my mind, I'm 38 so between work and collage I'm kept busy and my teenage sons age 15 and 17! ..plus Iv got the Hycosy test next week which is positive also, they say quite a large number of woman usually fall after the procedure is performed so for now I'm going to rest for a few days, my partners work gave him time off today to spend with me so that was nice then I'll probably try and get back to normal as best as possible on Friday and go back to collage. Thank you for listening xxx

No problem xxx best of luck with everything

Sorry to hear this, such a cruel thing after you’ve been trying so long.
If it makes you feel any better I conceived straight after my hsg and I’m 37. Fingers crossed for you x

@miraflores81 thank you, I think it's the test next week that's keeping me going! I'm feeling so much better today ..yesterday I was inconsolable. I just felt lost and helpless, it's the constant battle month after month and thinking is this the month? Then AF arrives and knocks you down! I feel like I can't take much more but me and my partner had a long chat today and we both decided to do the test then give it another year or so then maybe decide to give in if we don't get any luck because I think as much as you want something so bad you also have to think about what your doing to yourself and your body ..I had 5 miscarriages in a row 18 years ago but I really don't think I could emotionally deal with that if it happened again! We ain't getting any younger, my partner will be 40 this year. That's brilliant news! How long had you been trying? How did your test go also? I'm pretty scared so any advice would be great xx

My hsg was absolutely fine! So don’t worry about it, not worse than a smear anyhow. My local NHS Trust is not the best but the team that did my scan were so nice and understanding especially as I was so nervous! I think they were well aware of what people having a hsg are going through. I was very impressed with their manner. Although it’s not nice having people all up in your business, because of the angle of the table and being covered over with a sheet I couldn’t see what they were doing. Which helped. So it really was ok. I did take the rest of the day off work though! And definitely reward yourself with chocolate/wine!

We had been trying for 20 months. So totally get how destroying the monthly let down is. Hopefully this means you can get pregnant and the hycosy will increase your chances!!
You are so right though, you definitely have to look after yourself and having a limit is probably a good idea. Good luck

@miraflores81 thank you for all your kindly advice, it is very much appreciated and it will help to settle my nerves on the day! My partner has 2 children from his previous marriage and I have 2 children from my previous marriage so we are really thankful for what we have but it would be really nice to experience it together, we were first loves, we dated all through our teenage years until unfortunately his parents moved away and we lost touch because you had no social media or mobile phones back then! ..but we got back together over 3 years ago and it really felt like we had never been apart. His kids are 18 and 19, he's never experienced miscarriage before so he took it pretty bad. He's the best dad you could ever imagine, it amazes me watching him with them even at the ages of 18 and 19 ..my boys don't see their dad that often so to see the man you love adore his kids the way he does just melts my heart. ..but if it doesn't happen then we still have 4 amazing kids between us and we can enjoy the rest of our life's having fun together but I really hope we get the chance to experience it together cause it would be such a shame not to as I know we would make fantastic parents together ..time will tell 🤞🏻 have you had your little one yet? Xx

My little boy is 9 months now. Currently asleep! We were just about to start drug regimen for ivf when we found out! It sounds like you’ve got a lovely family

Just wanted to send my love, and say I hope the test goes well and that you are one of those who gets pregnant straight afterwards.

I am another who is with her teenage sweetheart, reconnected years later. Your partner sounds wonderful so I know no matter what happens you will have each other there

@Fieau thank you so much for your well wishes, I really hope so to 🤞🏻 when did you and your first love rekindle? It's amazing isn't it? The love you truly feel for your first love never leaves you does it? We dated for 4/5 years in the early/mid 90's! I was so broken hearted when he moved away, I don't think I came out my bedroom in about 3/4 weeks just locked myself away all summer and cried my eyes out! I did see him one day, the first time had ever seen him since and I was pregnant with my 1st born and he was with his older brother holding his 2 year old son in his arms ..I was due giving birth, it was early one Sunday morning in a McDonald's ..I just saw him and ran because I didn't want him to see me ..I had just got out of bed craving a McD breakfast, I was heavily pregnant and looked a mess so I ran to the toilet until he was gone lol ..we still laugh about it now, he still can't believe I run away to the toilet xx

@dianebz1 we hadn't seen each other for ten years and then bumped into each other on the street. We had both recently moved back to the area and didn't know the other one was living here again. I thought it would just be a quick awkward "hi how are you".... We ended up talking for hours and then he invited me out for a drink a few days later and that was that. He absolutely broke my heart when we were teenagers, just stupid immature teenage stuff. I think our relationship is so good though because we know each other in two completely different ways if that makes sense?

We struggled to get pregnant for a few years with miscarriages and fertility treatment.... I absolutely couldn't have gotten through it without him. He's my rock.

How are you feeling now Diane? Hope the past few days you've given yourself some time and space to deal with everything

@Fieau wonderful story, somethings are just meant to be ..I definitely believe in fate after us getting back together. Our journey has been so magical ..well apart from TTC. I can only hope that changes soon 🤞🏻 I had a very tough marriage, my ex husband became very violent and aggressive towards me so I had to take my sons away from that situation and start on my own again, it was tough ..we moved back in with my parents. It was only about 3 weeks later when I got a FB message from Ryan, it was as if someone was looking after me and brought him to me (strange as it sounds) but if he didn't contact me would I have gone back to the life I was living with my husband? We just chatted through messages for a month, he said he had searched for me for a long time but he was using my maiden name so when I left my ex and changed my name on FB he found me. He really helped me to stay strong and gave me the courage never to go back! Then one day about 5 weeks later he messaged and asked if I would go for dinner and my my parents were so supportive as told me to go for it ..so I did 😁 we moved in together about 6 months later and we all get along brilliant, my sons adore him. The best part is my sons now can see the way a woman should be treated because I think before they just thought the life we lived was normal. My ex husband turned up drunk one night begging me back a few months after we left and my son stood in and said "dad even if my mum said yes, I'd stop her because she's the happiest Iv ever seen her in her life" that speaks volumes and he's never bothered me since ..I got divorced over a year ago.

I can totally relate to everything you said, I still tease Ryan because he said he would come back for me when he passed his driving test, well I now know he passed his test a year later at 17 and never did come back. I'm a great believer in timing also, maybe it wouldn't have worked years ago ..having a family together, juggling work etc. I feel this is our time and I try to take some comfort that ..especially what happened with the MC the other day. I just hope time doesn't wait much longer because Iv never felt so ready.

I'm feeling better, crapping and bleeding has stopped. Don't know when to start TTC again, do you think I should start soon? Or wait til AF arrives?