Dh and I have been round and round again about this and we can't decide. Heart says we'd both love another but head it's realistically not manageable for these reasons:
- I had severe postnatal anxiety after dd2 (full blown panic attacks) which cbt "cured" but I remain an incredibly nervous person.
- Awful birth for dd1 so I had an elcs for dd2 and a bit concerned about having another
- Age gap. Not huge by any means. Dds are 8 and 4 so realistically I'd have a 5-6 and 9-10yo with a newborn.
- Financially were sort of fine (mortgage free) but pay two sets of school fees and wed struggle with a third set
- DH's father is a triplet, my mother is a twin. Petrified #3 could become #3,4,5!!
Writing all that down it's clear it's the best decision not to... right?
I'm 30 and dh 38, both babies conceived first go so we're exceptionally lucky, I know, I've just got a pang.
Anyone else had a similar dilemma?