Partner is too tired

[Mamabear12]

I’m so annoyed at my partner at the moment. He says he is too tired to dtd. Today is static flashing. Every month it’s a battle to get him to dtd. And he is like when can just try next month. It makes me so angry bc I wanted to start trying months ago. And yes we did try the last couple months, but he always delayed by a day (which wasn’t ideal as I felt delayed missed the opportunity). Anyways I’m so angry right now. Argh! Sorry all just had to vent. What do you do when dp does not cooperate??

Does he definitely want a baby? If he understands how fertility works then I’d say maybe he doesn’t want a baby right now. If he doesn’t understand then he probably doesn’t realise there’s a window of opportunity.
Also I’d try not to talk about smiley faces static or otherwise to him, maybe the pressure is getting too much for him.

Have you agreed whether to discuss your cycle?

Does he understand the window?

Does he really want a baby?

Does not cooperate sounds like you think he's doing something wrong. He does get to not want sex sometimes AND still want to conceive.

My OH is like this, low sex drive and just tired a lot generally. Demands and anger don't work, and if I ask he feels the pressure. He's more up for it in the morning so I go in for a cuddle, then work it from there if he feels receptive. Annoying, and I feel like I'm carrying all the mental load, but if it works I'll be happy. You have my sympathy. Good luck.

How often do you normally have sex, when not TTC?
Doesn’t sound like he’s really committed to having a baby to be honest.

So sorry OP, but it doesn’t sound like he wants a baby TBH.

I agree, you need to discuss this with him. If he knows how it works then it sounds like he might be having second thoughts. He might just be scared ! But definitely speak to him , ask if he's having second thoughts and if he says no explain how you only have a few days each month .

I don't think a lot of men realise how difficult it can be for a woman to just 'skip a month'. Every month is such a long wait as it is when when you have tried