Help: My OH has changed his mind.. after trying!

[APositiveMind]

We’ve spoken about kids before and he 100% wants them, he came to me a while ago and said we can start trying. Now we’ve been trying for a short while he is suddenly worried and isn’t sure he’s ready. He is 30, we have a mortgage and have been together a little over 4 years. But when I ask why he’s changed his mind he said he doesn’t really know he just feels like there might be things he wants to do, but doesn’t know what these things are.
I’m heartbroken but I know if he isn’t ready he isn’t ready. But why did he say to me we could start trying now?☹️

It’s probably pretty normal to get cold feet like that. Tell him the sooner he has kids the sooner they’ll be grown up.

Men get scared. It’s normal. First time my dh wasnt scared (he was also 36 so ready). Second time he was a little scared as he knew what we were in for (our first was 11 months when I conceived dc2) and now we are trying for dc3 and it’s a delicate dance as every month he gets a little scared around time to try.

NFP is great for scared men just saying. When you’re fertile just tell them and let them decide if their arousal overrides their fear (it usually does).

I knew that it wouldn't be all sunshine's and rainbows trying.. but I (begrudgingly) offered that we put a pause on trying if he felt that way, which he agreed. But now I'm so ready and was so excited! Now I'm just a crazy lady on Mumsnet for hardly a reason 🙄

It’s never too late. Just explain your reasons. It took several months to convince mine and every month he almost backs out, but in the end we always try. It’s third month trying and today I got static smile. Just hope tonight is the right time and it works 😀

Well he can just be responsible for contraception, if not good luck.
He will probably come round, keep talking, agree to think about it again in a few months.If you are stuck for time discuss how that makes you feel