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Secondary infertility

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ImpatientMammy · 03/10/2018 14:14

Anyone made a drs appointment for possible secondary infertility? I'm on cycle 11 now so I've made an appointment (I know I'm a month early). Any advice or idea what if anything will happen? X

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TwittleBee · 03/10/2018 14:18

Hopefully your GP will be a bit more understanding than mine, mine told me to go away and come back as we had not tried for a couple of cycles during the 12 months of TTC! She then said we have managed one baby so will most likely get another soon. She said possibly I am just tired and over stressed from 1st baby.

Hopefully someone with a positive experience will come on here soon! I might make an appointment with a different GP... x

Eminen · 03/10/2018 14:22

We've been TTC#2 for 20 months now. After 12 months we went to see GP. He done a semen analysis for DH and I had day21 blood test done, both of which came back normal. We were then told that we've managed to do it once so we will be able to do it again... Hmm
I think the amount of help you'll get on the NHS massively depends on the area in which you live, and it seems like secondary infertility isn't taken very seriously.
We could go private and have further tests done at a large cost, but we just can't afford it.
I hope you have better luck than us!

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ImpatientMammy · 03/10/2018 14:24

@TwittleBee how shitty of her!!! I've missed a couple of cycles due to my other half working away so I def won't be telling them that then. Thank you I just don't want to wait anymore 😩 it took them three months to get my coil out so in my heart I've been waiting longer. When's your next appointment? X

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ImpatientMammy · 03/10/2018 14:25

@Eminen thank you. I've got a syncing feeling about the whole thing. Pretty sure we can't afford to go private x

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TwittleBee · 03/10/2018 14:29

ImpatientMammy she said to come back at end of the year... Did feel very dismissed and like Eminen it felt like it wasnt taken seriously. I would certainly just make sure you and DH say you have been DTD every cycle around ovulation x

Metalhead · 03/10/2018 16:56

We had all the tests done (which all came back normal) after 6 months as we were both 35, but wouldn’t have been offered any treatment. Thankfully we managed to conceive again naturally. Good luck with your appointment!

HebeJeebies · 03/10/2018 17:31

When we went to GP we were referred to fertility specialist. My DP had semen check and I had blood tests. Then had the scan with the dye to check fallopian tubes all ok. Then prescribed Clomid, in the first cycle had a scan to ensure ovulation had occurred and was not affected by over stimulation. After all that I had more blood tests for AMH level (not sure why this isn't done at the outset tbh).
All of the above was on NHS.

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ImpatientMammy · 05/10/2018 19:32

Hi ladies, just wanted to say thank you for all the advise. I'm getting 21 day bloods done later in the month and my partner needs to make his own appointment also. The dr was very nice however did say their hands are pretty much tied after testing dependent on the outcome they can treat some things but IUI and IVF are a definite no. He didn't mention ultrasounds but going to take it one step at a time, I have a feeling if nothing comes up this will probably be as far as the NHS in my area will take things? He was very honest and open though which made me feel comfortable that they'll do whatever they can 🤞 x

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TwittleBee · 05/10/2018 19:38

Bless you OP. Glad they're being nice and supportive at least, really hope it happens for you soon x

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ImpatientMammy · 08/10/2018 08:10

@TwittleBee I was just thinking. My dr didn't check my notes at all when I went in. If your feeling like you need to get things moving you could book a different dr and do over the answers to the questions ? X

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TwittleBee · 08/10/2018 08:55

ImpatientMamm ooo yeah I could do! Just miss that bit out about stopping for a bit! Thank you. Hows things going for you?

Justwaitingforaline · 08/10/2018 09:02

We have secondary infertility ( although slightly different as my DH is not my DD’s dad) which is Male factor. We’re been trying for two and a bit years now and will be starting IVF in January.

beibikeiks · 08/10/2018 09:20

I've been struggling with this for almost 3 years now. With unexplained uteran bleeding and one awful emergency ectopic last year.

We have an 8 year old son that we conceived by dtd once (unplanned).

But I had been asked by doctors to wait for a year after all my unexplained bleeding (which they thought might have been triggered by a chemical pregnancy) and then come for tests. But I fell pregnant right before the year mark and had no idea it was ectopic. Then after the surgery I was told that since we managed to conceive this one, it means that we can do it ourselves and I was told to wait another year now and see what happens.

The year is almost up. So either I'm getting a BFP in the next two month or getting some tests done.

I've had laparoscopy, scans and blood tests and they didn't see anything wrong. They also said after my surgery that my other fallopian tube I still have, looks fine and no scar tissue anywhere...

I'm just not sure they're going to be able to do anything. And since we already have a child, I'm expecting answers like "You could do it once, you can do it again!"

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ImpatientMammy · 08/10/2018 12:20

Afternoon ladies I'm sorry to hear you've been waiting so long
@beibikeiks I hope you get a positive soon it sounds like you've really been put through it.
@Justwaitingforaline are they doing your IVF on the NHS? How you feeling about it.
I've just had a mini break down because I became overwhelmed with guilt that my little one might not get a sibling when my sister is my rock. I cried in the car then felt guilty that he might know I feel sad 🙄 anyway I've pulled myself together and tbh feel better for it x

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beibikeiks · 08/10/2018 12:27

@Impatientmammy Thank you 😊 I've been very hopeful about this cycle, but I'm of course making myself a bit cray cray during tww. Not going to take a test until AF is due on Saturday though. So we'll see 🙂

Justwaitingforaline · 08/10/2018 19:18

No, no funding here. The criteria in our CCG is no child at all to get funding whereas some areas offer funding if one has a child and the other doesn’t and some offer none at all! I’m sharing my eggs though which lowers the cost significantly Smile I’m actually happy we have an official reason for why it’s not happened now, rather than beating myself up every month and wondering what the hell im doing wrong. DD is nearly 4 and asks multiple times a week when she’s going to have a baby brother or sister which used to break my heart.

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impatientmammy · 22/06/2019 20:22

This was a long time ago just thought I'd hop out the yamfam to see how everyone's doing? Just cried at a video of my little boys best friend with her sister 🤦🏻‍♀️ hopefully there's not many reply's cause yous are all up the duff now x

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