It's just sh*t

[BDFT]

Sorry to be a downer.

Af arrived just now. 3 days late. Thought we had finally done it, but no.

Why does this have to be so blooming hard?

Sorry, just totally bummed.

I am so sorry to hear that!
All is not lost though! Keep trying and good luck! X

Thanks. Just sent dh out to get wine. It seems the best way forward tonight.

I'm sure I'll manage to be more optimistic tomorrow.

I'm with you, OP. Now 15 days late but got a negative test this morning. Guessing my cycle is still messed up from the pill. Really thought we had done it, too.

I'm sorry for you 💜

Thanks Token, I'm sorry for you too. I hope you get a bfp soon, or else a new cycle so you know where you stand.

Thank you. Yeh, I'd be happy to get AF now so I can start trying again x

Really sorry you're going through this, it's such a hard game this TTC malarkey it really is... I came on 2 days early this month☹️ we'd started using the preseed and had got O bang on, really thought we had it because I 'felt different'. Safe to say there were floods of tears yesterday when AF arrived. I know how shit it feels right now and how shit it is when someone tells you to stay positive when you just feel like screaming. I'm happy to be here as a shoulder to cry on OP. Thinking of you x

Thank you susso, youre right, its so hard to 'jest keep trying'.

I have a gp appointment on the 10th to discuss my second round of blood tests and dh's SA so hopefully we will get a plan to move forward.

Have you been trying long?

Definitely is easier said than done @BDFT .
It's when you get your hopes up so much for them to just come crashing down it's heartbreaking. (Sorry for the moaning haha I've just been feeling really rubbish too today about TTC).

The appointment is great news, I hope you get the advice/ help that you're wanting.

I've only been trying for 6/7 months but it feels like a lifetime. I know some people have been trying for double, even triple my time and it makes me feel real selfish but I'm be stress and upset of TTC is just so real..

Sending lots of love, think we all need it at the minute x

@BDFT forget to add this in to previous message- how long have you been trying? X

Gutted for you. I feel the same- I thought it would be easy because people get pregnant all the time right?!

@susso don't be sorry for moaning. Some days it's all you can do! We have been trying a little longer than you. Started investigations in July but dh's appointment for sa was only last week so that took almost 3 months from gp appointment to him going to the hospital.

I hope you get some good news soon. Until then take each day as it comes. Let the bad days be bad and enjoy the good days xx

@wish omg I know right?! I went to an all girls school and they told us even if we held hands with a bit we would get pregnant!

I blooming wish it was that easy!

Hope you're doing ok x

Bit?! *boy!

I’m really sorry. Know exactly how you feel, started trying September 2017 and have had 3 consecutive miscarriages since, most recent one was last month at 14 weeks pregnant. I went into TTC thinking it was simple that within a few months I’d be pregnant and everything would be fine. Straightforward. Wow I was so naive!! It really makes you wonder how people actually get pregnant accidentally? It’s so bloody hard 🙈 hope you have better luck next month and with your gp appointment - sending lots of baby dust your way x

@Hayley I am so so sorry for your losses. Words cannot express how horrendous it will have been for you, and still is I'm sure.

I'm not going to say 'chin up', you have every right to be in a negative head space right now. When you're ready to look possitivly forward again you will, no need to pressure yourself or to rush it. Take care of you and your head missy x

@BDFT definitely. I've woke up feeling a bit better today so I'll make the most out of this good day ☺️ really hope you get the answers and help you're looking for soon.

Sending lots of love and good vibes xx

@susso right back atcha Mrs, glad you're feeling a bit better today. Have a good one x

I know exactly how everyone here feels. I'm 32 years old and have been TTC for 4 years. I just got my period today and I don't feel very happy. So many girls I know got pregnant without trying or on the first try and I'm just frustrated. I pray every day. I asked my co-workers and family members to say a prayer for me. I get so frustrated sometimes. But then I also realize how lucky I am to have such wonderful husband. I had a talk with DH yesterday (who has been very supportive) and we both are being very hopeful. Yes we had failed ivf and treatments did not work. But we want to believe! We have to have hope for sake of our future baby! We're supposed to see the RE soon. We are planning to move to the next step. We are willing to do whatever it takes to have our baby, even if it means using egg of a donor, surrogacy or adopting. Let’s keep going together to our dream! I think God will give us a chance to be moms when the time is ours. Sticky baby dust to all.

@BDFT thank you so much, it’s been so hard but I’m coping with the help of my lovely OH. Sending you the best of luck for the future 💕

@XamberXx I’m so sorry hun. TTC can be such a long, hard, unrelenting journey. I really hope you’re blessed with a baby soon ❤️