Bleeding / early scan dates

[Gpmg84]

Hi there,
I have been bleeding throughout my pregnancy, nothing too heavy but on off for 2/ 3 weeks and had a few small clots. According to my dates I should be 6 weeks 3 days . Yesterday after 2 weeks of on off bleeding I had an early pregnancy scan and they could only see a sac no heartbeat. The technician said it looks like a 5 week pregnancy but I'm obviously terrified that there is no baby at all. The hospital have booked me in for another scan on 17/10/18 (which seems ages away!!) When they said they'll be able to see more for certain. I spoke to a GP on the phone last night and she said I should definitely prepare for the worst as it's looking likely the pregnancy isn't viable. So sad. Love to hear from anyone with similar experience?

I've (fortunately) never been in this situation but there are so many who have. I just wanted to say that it is so easy to be a week or two out from your own dates, I was charting religiously, knew exactly when I ovulated and my dates were still wrong, the waiting is awful, hope its good news x

This must be a very worrying time for you

I haven’t had an early scan myself, but what I know from other is that the baby is SO small right now (I think around the size of a sesame seed?) and it’s difficult for them to get accurate measurements at a scan at this stage.

Was the scan abdominal or internal? I understand the internal ones are better for finding a heartbeat at this stage, but I think it’s not uncommon for it not to be seen yet?

At this stage the pregnancy is developing really quickly, so one or two days can make a real difference.

Hope all goes well for you x

Thank you so much Stephisaur and Lymphy.
Yes as you say the waiting is the hardest bit. I keep doing those clear blue pregnancy tests and it's stuck on 2-3 even though I should be well over 5 weeks now 😩.
I had both types of scan - abdominal and internal and they couldn't see a heart beat on either.
I'm trying to prepare myself for the worst as I have had bleeding too but of course am still praying and hoping that I'll see a heartbeat next time.
Have booked one of those early pregnancy private scans on the 10th (can't wait until the NHS one on the 17th).
Thank you again for your messages.
X

Hi chicken,

I know exactly how you feel. The same thing happened to me.

I really hope everything is ok with your pregnancy and you're just having one of these strange phenomenons, (and those pregnancy tests aren't the best source of infomation, so I wouldn't take much notice of it) but I'm going to share my story with you because I think your GP is right to warn you to prepare for the worst just in case. I held on to hope as I wasn't sure of my dates although everything seemed wrong on my first scan and then the worse happened and I wasn't prepared. I'd googled everything under the sun to look for success stories, and there are a lot out there, so it's good to read those too, but I buried my head in the sand a bit and didn't prepare myself.

I didn't do a pregnancy test until CD38 because I hadn't been off the pill for very long and wasn't sure of my cycle lengths or anything and didn't know when/if I'd ovulated.
I felt periody for a few days but no AF so I decided I would test (CD34) but then I started bleeding, so thought nothing of it and didn't test. However the bleeding was really light and I was very bloated.
I usually bleed for about 6 days so when it dried up by 3/4 days I decided to test and got the shock of my life when it came back positive.
The GP said it sounded like 'normal' bleeding but to keep an eye on it.
Three days later I had another bleed of very dark red blood and so was sent to EPU for early scan.
The scan showed a sac in the right place but no baby so they said to go back in 10 days to see if there was any progress.
10 days later they could see the fetal pole but it was only measuring 3.8mm and they couldn't see a heartbeat, but they said it might be that I was a lot earlier on than they thought (although looking at dates again since this just couldn't really have been the case) and they would check for progress in another week's time. They also told me it was normal not to see a heartbeat under 4mm.
So I waited another week, hopeful for good news and pleased that I'd had no more red bleeding (although a fair amount of brown spotting), and then at my next scan the baby hadn't grown and I was told it was a missed miscarriage.

The hospital were very supportive and handled everything really well.

I hope with all my might that you'll have a better outcome than I did. Don't lose all hope. But be prepared and be strong.

IF you do miscarry there's a lovely supportive group of us here:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3373532-ttc-after-pregnancy-loss-thread-26-bfps-are-coming?noti=1#81415257
You're more than welcome to join us if you need to.

Sending supportive hugs xxx

I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this, it's agony isn't it! Unfortunately I have been in your position so am aware of how it can feel.
Very unfortunately but you do have to wait, it's the only way of having a comparison over what they're seeing now vs what they'll see in a couple of weeks. I had to wait over xmas and new year and be a bridesmaid in between, walking down the aisle bloody bleeding, just horrific.... anyway.....
Just keep looking after yourself physically and mentally. Try to stay away from google, obsessing cant be good and there is nothing there that will say 'everything will be fine', surround yourself with close loved ones that can be there for you. Have a bath with candles and eat well.
If..... worse comes worst then read up on self care after miscarraige and take supplements, stay off social media and taaaaaaaaalk about it, to anyone that will listen, get it out of your system so u can deal with everything.

But everything is crossed for you my dear, good luck!!!!
X

I'm really sorry to hear you're in this position but I'm keeping everything crossed for you. I'm afraid in my case when the clear blue got stuck at 1-2 weeks even when it should have been later, I then started bleeding not long after and at a scan at 6 weeks they confirmed a miscarriage. Yours sounds more hopeful as could just still be early - on my scan there was nothing there and my blood test came back at 3, so negative. Which shows just how sensitive frer are as I took the test the same day as blood work. FX x

Thank you everyone. It sounds like I am right to be preparing for the worst. Knitkitty my situation sounds identical to what you experienced as well. Period came, then stopped etc etc. I'm sorry that you had to go through this too.

Jackio2205 like you did, I have just spent the weekend being my best friends maid of honour and keeping this to myself so as to not taint her special day. Really tough! Nice to be able to log onto this and read supportive messages afterwards.

The waiting is agonising but it does help to know I'm not alone with this and hear from others. My husband is amazing but doesn't 'get it' in the same way. Thank you again x

The waiting is torture but it's really the only way to know what's going on.

As jackio2205 said, make sure you don't keep this bottled up. Talk about it, it helps.

It's often just not the same for the men in this situation. But it's great that you've got someone supporting you. Do whatever you need to do to get through this waiting period.

Hugs again.
Please keep us updated on the outcome.

@Gpmg84 how interesting that we both had the same situation, spooky! Make sure you take supplements, if you are bleeding, need to keep up with iron and other vitamins.
Xxxx

I thought I would report back now I've had my scan. Very sadly there was still no heartbeat. As there has been some growth (the sac has doubled in size) since my last scan they need to scan me one more time and then will book me in for a d & c next week. I'm absolutely devastated but at least I was semi prepared for this outcome. Thank you again for your support. X

Huge hugs @Gpmg84. I'm so sorry that it's not looking good.

I had a d&c (or I think they call it ERPC these days?) as well, so if you want any info about experiences don't hesitate to ask.
Also, do come and introduce yourself on this thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3373532-ttc-after-pregnancy-loss-thread-26-bfps-are-coming

It's a long thread so don't feel you have to catch up on everything, you can just hop right in and introduce yourself. You also don't have to be TTC again to join us, but we have all had similar experiences to you and it's a lovely supportive bunch of ladies. What you're going through can be a lonely experience, so finding people to talk to really helps.

Really sorry to hear this hun, thank you for keeping us updated, u didnt have to. I mentioned a few things about self care in my last post but just a few things more in the hope that it helps you to feel prepared.
1-take earphones to the hosp with you in case you need to not hear anything
2-get your home ready, maybe some big disposable sheets for your bed
3-painkillers and hot water bottle at the ready
4-fill your cupboards with food and drink you like
Other than that your hormones will be a bit messed up for a couple of months, and you'll be teary from the anaesthetic, so just give yourself time, dont expect it to be a couple of weeks and back to normal. My thoughts are with you poppet, good luck!! ❤️

Hi :) I had a private early pregnancy scan and they told me there was only a sac no heartbeat and that I was having a miscarriage for sure. Went to my local epau 3 days later and they found a viable pregnancy of almost 8 weeks. I do not want to give you false hope but try and not worry too much until you know for sure.
I wouldn’t recommend a private scan after my experience though, the 17th really isn’t that long away and it may be the time the baby needs to develop a little more. X

I’m so so sorry I’ve only just seen you update as I pressed post :(

@Harrypotterfan1604 This kind of thread is always searched on google by people going through the same thing, so other ladies may see your message of hope and be comforted by it. I'm glad you had a happier outcome. xxx

Thank you @Knitkitty and @Jackio2205 for your kind messages and advice. @Harrypotterfan1604 I'm so pleased to hear you had a more positive outcome and this will give others hope! X