After miscarriage

[Cassia90]

Hi, newbie here. Unfortunately had a miscarriage at 10 weeks, stopped growing at 8 weeks. Diagnosed on 28/08 stopped bleeding 8/10.

I wasn't on Mumsnet but have found lots of old and current convos on here helped me whilst I was feeling very low.

Now I am feeling better and looking towards the future I am curious.

How soon after a miscarriage did you get a BFP?

Anyone?

So sorry to hear that.

I had a miscarriage 28/7 (last year) @6w+ 4. I can't remember roughly how long it took to stop bleeding but I know it was fairly quick.
I then discovered I was pregnant again on 30/10 and my DS was born July this year.

Wishing you all the best for the future x

So sorry Cassia. Glad you're feeling better.

I had a missed miscarriage one July, I waited for a period before trying again, and had BFP in the September. The BFP is now six years old and sitting next to me refusing to go to bed.

All the best for TTC, if you decide to try again. Xxx

@Cassia90 in the same place as you.
Miscarried this August. Had a period end of August and now trying to conceive again. Currently near when my period should be! Xx

Girls, thank you all so much for replying x it's nice to know I'm not alone and hear stories. Even though I've read a million online knowing people are actually replying to me is so reassuring.

@Delilah7 thank you so much for commenting, were in the same boat. I don't know about you but just knowing and talking to someone who has been through the same makes me feel like a human again xx

@Cassia90 same as me Hun. Incredibly hard. First pregnancy. First baby. First miscarriage. Extremely difficult xx

@Delilah7 exactly the same as me! I was absolutely heartbroken, such a mix of emotions. How old are you? I'm 23 and to be honest felt like my friends weren't there and didn't really understand but my sister and husband. God without them I really don't know where I'd be. I'd never wish what happened to us on my worst enemy. Send hugs hun xxxx

Good luck. We’re thinking of having our fourth child next November just in time for Christmas next year. I’m sorry for your loss.

So sorry for your loss xxxx

I had a MC at 11 weeks after the heart stopped sometime between a week or two beforehand.

I conceived my daughter 3 weeks later so didn't have a period between MC and BFP.

Midwife wasn't best pleased with me. But seemed silly to use a condom. And it's all worked out fine for me.

Seeing as it was the only time we had sex that month I knew my dates perfectly and it's apparently only for dating that they tell you to wait for a period.

Baby I MCd was due on Valentine's Day and daughter was born end of April so really quick. And that was after a year of TTC to start with.

TTC has made sex a bit of a chore and I'm actually grateful that when we conceived DD we were actually making love, not TTC because the calendar said we should that day.

Fingers crossed it's soon for you. X

@PoxAlert thank you so much for your positive story xxx

@Cassia90 sorry you find yourself here. We have a thread for TTC after loss which is lovely and supportive.

I conceived my first full cycle after my miscarriage, but that was an ectopic; I then conceived again first cycle trying again (had to have a couple of months off) and now early days.

I have friends who conceived again same cycle. Good luck!

@Cassia90 I'm same age as you. Without my friends my partner and mum and dad I wouldn't be here xxx

Thanks @hellotoyellow I will have a look. @Delilah7 you should join to xx

Hi @Delilah7 how are you getting on?

@Cassia90 I'm ok thanks how're you? Xx

Hi all,

Just wanted to join in, I had a missed miscarriage in October last year, found out at my 12 week scan, baby had stopped growing at 8 +4. It was truly devastating, i was bleeding for about 1-2 weeks afterwards, but mentally it took me months to get over it. Getting pregnant again, just make sure your physically and mentally ready! 🙂 it takes most people up to 12 months to get pregnant again.

I have however just found out I am pregnant again, EDD is 2nd June. And today had my letter come through about my dating scan! I am petrified it is going to happen again and just don't know how to chill out!

@carlyb I'm in a similar position at the moment. I'm really trying not to stress but i have always been an anxious person anyway. I had a MMC with our first pregnancy in June this year and found out at 13 weeks at the first scan there was no heartbeat and baby stopped growing at 6-7 weeks. It wasn't until my 4th medical intervention (MVA) that i got the all clear and then obviously had to wait for a negative test.
This month i got a suprise positive pregnancy test result, we were having a month off TTC to try and give ourselves a break but we're desperate for a healthy pregnancy. Mixed feelings now and very nervous but obviously pleased. We have an early scan at what i think will be 7 weeks and 1 day this Monday. Due date calculator if correct says 2nd June all being well too. Fingers crossed for us both! I know how nervous you must be feeling, all we can do is hope for the best. All the best x x x

@KAY8815 - good luck for your scan on Monday let me know how you get on!!! I'll have my fingers crossed for you!
We're planning on having an early scan at 9 weeks which I need to book in - my fiancé doesn't think it'll benefit us but I think even if it helps my mental health for a couple of days will be worth it!
Have you felt different this time round? My symptoms have been much stronger so far during this pregnancy!
X

@carlyb I think i'm second guessing everything this time. Last time i had a sore left boob and needed to pee a lot, nausea started at 8 weeks for a few weeks but not that strong and horrible migranes where your vision goes but that was it apart from the fatigue and the baby had already died by then.
This time it started early with a sore left boob at 4/5 weeks and the nausea and fatigue started to kick in at 5 weeks. The nausea has turned to vomiting at 6 weeks and now it's on and off all day but sore boob has gone. I'm just trying to keep hydrated but even water i struggle with at times. Sipping lime cordial i think is helping! So sickness wise my symptoms are a whole lot stronger, i'm throwing up 2 to 4 times a say which is worrying but hoping its a good thing. I don't want to get my hopes up because i know someone who was still having sickness at her 12 weeks scan but the baby died at 8 weeks. I don't think you can read too much into symptoms from what i've read on here. Some have even experienced bleeding and still had a healthy pregnancy.

I think just hopefully seeing a healthy pregnancy in the right place on a scan will give me some peace of mind even if it doesn't help for long it breaks up that 12 week wait a little bit. I would definitely book one for your own sanity if nothing else. So nervous! I'll let you know how it goes x x x

@KAY8815 it's just terrible isn't it...having a MMC for your first pregnancy just screws your mental health.
I will book one in I think, are you going private? I've looked into window to the womb. Xx

@carlyb Yeah, it's hard on you and some people just don't get it. I had some problems with pain after and the Dr i saw was absolutely horrible and unsympathetic. I wont be seeing her again. I don't know where you're from but if you're in the UK you shouldn't have to pay. For missed miscarriage if you call your local early pregnancy unit they will let you have an early scan on the NHS. I was told this when they discharged me last time. They were very good with me. Hope you manage to get one booked x x x

@carlyb I have good news, or at least so far so good. I saw my baby's heartbeat this morning and baby was measured at 8 weeks 3 days! I can't get my head around the dates but it was so amazing to see. I couldn't stop crying. Fingers crossed everything stays healthy x x x

@KAY8815 that's amazing news!!!!! Congratulations!!! Oh really are you further on than you thought? Such lovely news though 😊😊
I called my EPCU today and they said no to an early scan so I need to do it privately! X

@carlyb that's not fair at all, i'm so sorry! I don't understand why we get different treatment. I would say it's worth it if it's driving you crazy waiting.
Thanks we're really pleased and a bit more hopeful now x x x