Help? Am I worrying too much?

[GWat06]

Hello! Me and my partner have been TCC for 14 months now. We are getting married next year and reallllllly wanted a baby before which people think is the wrong way round but each to their own! After 14 months I am physically drained. No matter how many people tell me to stop thinking about it; seriously, how can you not think about something you want so much?! :( my partner isn’t the best help as he doesn’t like to talk about it, so I just keep it all in and it eats at me. I’m due on Tuesday but dreading it once again. I refuse to take a test before my period now as it’s always a disappointment. I’m under gynaecology at the moment due to my horrific periods since coming off the pill! I know I’m young and still have plenty of time but it completely destroys me :( 3 of my friends have fell pregnant/had babies after the time that we’d started so I just think surely there’s something wrong!! :( x x

Hi @GWat06 - that sounds so hard. I think your feelings are completely understandable.
Have you spoken to your GP?

I think the first thing I'd suggest is looking at the wedding thing. Weddings are stressful enough and ttc is stressful enough - do you need to do both? to have that extra time constraint will only make things even harder to cope with. Could you postpone the wedding, or bring it forward? One thing I'm trying to do is organise things for the coming year that id prefer not to be pregnant for, to hopefully make me less sad about not being pregnant. However a wedding might be a bit extreme to do this with.

Main thing is try to talk to your partner. TTC is hard but having a baby will be even harder. You need to be able to support each other. He might be feeling the same way.

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Thank you for your reply!

It got me quite emotional to be honest. The wedding is no stress at all. In a sense it’s kind of taking my mind off of things a lot as it’s something else to focus on if you like? Close family (mum and mother in law) suggest we wait until after the wedding. The hardest thing is when you have been trying for 14 months you don’t want to wait? I have a really stressful job which doesn’t help too!

I’ve been to the GP, they state they will not refer me until 18 months.. so at the moment I’m just having my periods investigated (I pass out and vomit on occasion when I’m on due to the pain).

Speaking to my partner is a great idea. He is amazing but he just hates seeing me upset! We do need to have a huge chat about everything.. I just want someone to tell me if something’s wrong or not. X