Uncertainty surrounding parentage

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I'd really appreciate any insight that may shed some light on a current situation whereby my previous Partner who had planned to get pregnant and had a personality disorder called APD told me she thought she was pregnant but had decided she didn't want to be in a relationship. (We had been trying to conceive and had regular unprotected intercourse the previous week) A few days later that week she asked me to meet her and although she thought she might have come on she stated it wasn't the same as normal and to bring a pregnancy test which I did then she claimed she wasn't pregnant and we should be friends. I was heartbroken but accepted her wishes. Several weeks later she told me that she was pregnant but I wasn't the father as she had slept with someone once and he apparently didn't want to know or have any involvement.
I asked when she became pregnant and she said it was in June since her LMP she gave was when we broke up 2 weeks previously in mid may. I wondered if she could of mislead me into thinking I wasn't the father but she was adamant infact claimed to have taken a further test a week later that was after we both broke up and it was also negative.
However, after meeting her just before her 12 week scan which was 11w 4days approximately just under 11 weeks she appeared very noticeably pregnant. I never saw her again and had her friend who was suspicious of this story too that she had given birth around 11 days prior to her due date which I believed was also strange as she gave birth to a 9lb6oz baby. Refuting my request to have a paternity test we no longer talked as she won't speak to me. I tried to get a court paternity test but she never turned up once even when the courts sent a official to serve a order that she should attend.
I then saw a couple of scan photos on her mothers wall which made me question myself as although knoeing nothing about scans the scan showed a 11w4 GA however the second 20 week scan had the information absured by a cut out bear obscuring the information. I wondered now and cancelled the court proceedings. My question is thus: would the GA be what she told them the LMP was and as I had no idea of the other information on screen including the measurements also confused as she told me a due date based on 9 months from her LMP. I wondered whether if I uploaded a scan photo would this reveal whether the foetus was 11w4 or 13w4 or would this be able to be determined without measurements by the eye? Sorry for the lack of punctuation.

WTAF?

Sorry I was just hoping for advice

I'm not sure that people online will be able to tell by a scan picture as we're not trained but would it be worth contacting a local sonographer and exposing your situation?
I would keep on with the court tbh. One way or another, you need to find out if the baby is yours.
If she point blank refuses to do a test, that in itself is a huge red flag.
It sounds like you are more than likely the father.

*explaining - not exposing

Thanks so much for that. I was just thinking exactly the same thing. Brilliant advice. I will do that because I really think this mine the only way to tell. If the sonographer says that it's a bit abiguous I will pursue the court action further as however much I'd like to give her the Ben of the doubt. There is so much there to be dubious about. Obviously it has played on my mind as this was the person I had planned to spend my life with.

For her to be trying for a baby with you and then to suddenly leave is so odd. I really hope you get your answer!

So what's the gap between the dates where you actively tried to conceive and the date she claims to have conceived with another man?

I've read it again. So she's claiming to have had a period between your break up and her conceiving?

I don't think you are going to know for sure without a paternity test. Everything else is just guessing.

Yes it is probably impossible to tell without guessing. There were lots of factors that I found odd or perculiar the most infuriating was blanket denial and then being blocked or plain refusal to talk to me. It was also strange that she thought it might be necessary to retest but not to consider that most advise recommends waiting two weeks to be sure. Surely she would also have some insight into the around about tom s of her cycle. She was very interested in reading as much as she could about pregnancy so would of thought she was well informed surrounding that is kind of thing. I have been guessing to long. I appealed to her to kindly go with my wishes to perform a DNA test earlier to avoid further messy court proceedings which I think both of us should avoid if at all possible. It seemed disturbing that she was able to not make any court appearance even whist being served. Arrrgh we will have to see.

Also just to mention that she does suffer with APD which is avoidant personality disorder.

To further confuse things I imagined her cycles were at the start of the month but as she came off contraception a few months earlier I couldn't be 100% sure it all seemed to create more doubt.

As far as I know the number of weeks printed on the 12 week scan picture is the estimate taken during the scan, and isn’t just taken from the mother’s LMP. The purpose of the scan is to check viability and date the pregnancy.

So if matching the LMP 9w 4d from conception? And not mine?

It was the one on the left hand corner not the one printed at the end. Which I obviously haven't seen.

You really need to push for a paternity test on the baby

I would take legal advice on how to pursue this if she won't agree

I think you are right as really can't see that she'd have such an obvious bump less than or around 9 weeks after conception.

I meant less than 8 weeks...