Story time... How did you tell your other half you were pregnant?

[Josico58]

Hello!
I'm brand new here and kind of TTC - I very recently stopped my contraception method (non-hormonal IUD so no need to wait for anything to 'regulate itself') and will see what happens over the next few months before actively trying (tracking, OV strips, etc).
So not trying but not not-trying basically!
My husband is actually broodier than me but he doesn't want to "start trying" yet because we still have a lot of work to do on our house, and we're both awaiting an annual bonus from work - but he seems to think that it would happen right away as soon as we decide we're ready to be expecting, despite me explaining to him numerous times that realistically it could take up to a year or maybe longer. But we'll see. It's tricky because until you give it a go you just don't know how long it'll take - could be immediate or could be quite difficult.
Anyway, I want to hear your stories of finding out you were pregnant and letting him know... Did you take the test together, or take it yourself and then surprise him with the news? What was his reaction? Etc etc. All stories ... I want to know :)
Also did you tell your BFF/Mum/immediate family the news before 12 weeks? I can't imagine not telling my Mum but I don't think I would tell anyone else until after the 1st scan.
PS: I'm quite nervous about the prospect of "trying" as nearly all of my pregnant/parent friends have not had an easy ride.. but trying to think positively. Exciting!
PPS: I know hardly any acronyms yet, but enjoying learning them :)

Having been told I couldn’t have dcs, having a baby was nowhere on our plan, and I couldn’t find the words to even start a sentence so I just handed him the little stick.

@Josico58 ooooo exciting times!! I kinda tracked mine the last 8 months after coming off the pill but we weren't due to start trying untill June next year so I didn't track much more than ovulating (can feel it) and when I bled, but we started trying this much & I wish I'd tracked better now! So the fact your doing ovulation tests etc now is great!! :)

I'm in the 2WW (2 week window) before testing, we 100% tried at the right time this month as we used ovulation test & im symptom spotting like a lunatic! Part of me wants to do a test myself & buy something cute for the other half and wrap it up with the test or do something silly like put a packet of buns in the oven and let him figure it out but I know he's counting down till we can test like me so I think it will be me running in the bedroom waving a wee stick around jumping all over the bed (hopefully non escapes )

I will tell my best friend who's currently out of the country & we're hoping if we are as lucky to be pregnant that we will try & hold out (symptom and bump may get in the way haha) but untill Christmas & surprise grandparents then!!

Aw, that's really sweet to think that he is just as excited to take the test as you are. I feel like my hubby would probably feel left out if he knew I was taking a test alone but I kind of feel like I wouldn't want to do one together then it be negative, which of course is likely to happen a number of times before BFP (I do know that one!), so I'd plan to hold off as long as I could and only do a test when AF (another one ;) hadn't made her appearance.. I just don't want to get too obsessive over it, especially as we're in no particular rush! But it's hard not to get excited!!

I wish I had a film worthy story!

DH and I had several losses between 14-24 weeks. I took a test, saw it was positive and told him, but was bleeding on and off for a few months. We both tried not to get too excited and get our hopes up.

It was all a bit of an anticlimax really!

He told me! I didn't think I was pregnant so left the test with him and wandered off round the house. It was wonderful. I was the one who had the surprised reaction and he got some ownership of it. I would do it again a million times.

After a year of trying I just got my BFP today & all my plans of surprising him went out the window, I couldn’t wait so just what’s apped him a photo. Still in shock !

Mine was an unplanned pregnancy in a new relationship so I was wary of telling him. I had got pregnant previously with my abusive ex who had forced me to have an abortion, I knew that my now DH was lovely and kind, but still was anxious. I went round to his house after work, he cooked shepherds pie, I blurted out that I was pregnant while eating my dinner. He said he was really happy and the next day asked me to marry him. It all happened really quickly. 19 years later we are still together and have been married for 17 years. We still have shepherds pie on momentous occasions or when one of us is feeling miserable and needs cheering up

@AndNoneForGretchenWieners

That is the absolute sweetest thing I've read in a long time how lovely

Some lovely stories! I looked at the same time as my OH this time so we found out together.

Last time I told a very few close friends and family before 12 weeks, was planning to tell the rest after my scan but then had a MC at 11 weeks. I told most of the rest of my friends about the MC instead as I wanted to be open & needed the support! So this time the idea of hiding it then doing the big reveal has lost its shine somewhat now. So I’ve told most of the people who knew about the MC already, same day I did the test. But I’m not telling work yet 😂

I can't remember the first two but I certainly remember the third!!

My babies where 17 months and 4 months old (deliberately close together). I was on the mini pill. I was two days late.
I woke up at 5 am worrying and decided to put my mind at rest with a spare test left over from no 2.
It instantly went a deep deep pink.
I got back into bed and nudged DH. ' Are you awake?' 'Uh' 'Are you in a good mood?' ' Uhhh????' 'Im pregnant again.'
'Oh god' With that he rolled over and snored. In the morning he woke up turned to me and said, 'I had the worst dream..' saw my face...' It wasn't a dream was it!?!?!??!'

So we had three in two years and 3 months. No 3 was the most laid back and delightful baby ever and we went on to have a 4th, but that moment will stick in my mind forever... his FACE

i was 15 and told my boyfriend whilst sat on a wall outside rollerworld crying buckets and covered in snot. i’d just done the test in the toilets with my best friend. 7 years later we found out when we did the test together in the bathroom of our new home whilst our son banged on the door demanding to know what we were doing.

@Mikewazowskismrs Aww CONGRATS!!! I bet you’re both over the moon :D

First one (day before my 40th birthday) : "Oh holy fuck your junk works. Oh shit, I can't drink tomorrow" (him: you should've waited a couple of days. Also, aaaaargh). Unfortunately ended in MC.

Second one (four months later): woke him up with a "Good morning Daddy". Him: "Oh fuck, really. Also, what time is it?". Again, unfortunately MC.

This one (28 weeks and counting): POAS, thought it was negative, didn't mention it. Emptying bin 2 days later, spot line. Rush to supermarket for more tests. POAS. Positive. He's on a night shift. Send him a FB messenger picture. Him: "Shit. Hope this one sticks!"

I have a plan for this weekend!

So, we've just had our second cycle of IVF, and I've been testing early because I couldn't bear the big build-up to the negative outcome we had last time. I'd rather have been gradually disappointed.

But, to my absolute joy, I've been testing for three days and they're all positive, so if I carry on getting positives for the rest of the week, I'm going to tell DH on Saturday morning.

We're planning our honeymoon for next month (got married last year) and we've chosen two destinations - one for if I got pregnant, and one active/outdoorsy place for if I'm not. I've got him a guide book for the "pregnant destination" and I'm going to tie a positive Clearblue Digital test to it and hand it to him at breakfast

Our eldest I just text him that I needed to talk to him as we still lived with our parents at the time and he guessed from that.

With our youngest I found out Christmas Day morning so i wrapped the clear blue digital up for his first present of the day. This was extra special as we had miscarried earlier that year and that baby was actually due Christmas Day 🙂

I was off to a work trip to London to see Wicked. I'd worked from home in the morning and feeling a bit queasy I took the test (we were TTC)

Dh was dropping me off at the train station. I hopped out the car, thanked him for the lift and said 'BTW I'm pregnant' and skipped off to get my ticket.

I flapped my freshly peed on stick in his face, shouted “we’re going to have a baby!”, flung myself dramatically at him and burst into tears. At 5am. We have been TTC for 18 months and I couldn’t believe I got a positive test

I told after the scan. My mother came over and 'we' drank G&T... next morning she asked how my head was and I said it was fine. She said I should have a hangover and I asked why? I hadn't been drinking, of course I hadn't been drinking I was 13 weeks pregnant.

She cussed me out for getting her piddly as she was only drinking to keep me company. yeah right mum, whatever you say

Yes thank you absolutely over the moon, believed I would never see that positive result !

Good luck to you too

These stories have made my day! All so lovely current trying not to get emotional at work haha so happy for you all !

Come on next month!

I just shouted down the stairs
Oh my god babe

My husband ran up the stairs and I cried on the toilet holding on to him

I POAS first thing in the morning, saw it was positive, and thought I'd wait a week or two before saying anything to DP as I'd had miscarriages and MMC before and couldn't quite face it all again.

Made us a cup of tea, came back into the bedroom trying to act normal. He took one look at my face and asked me what was up. I told him and had a proper blub while he told me it was all OK, and a good thing. I think I was totally overwhelmed, and also terrified that I would miscarry again. I'm now 15+4 with a pretty energetic little bean - it's looking good.

These stories are making me so happy, and emotional!! Keep them coming please :) :) :)

I love this thread 😍😍😍

DC1 we'd had a negative pregnancy test a few days earlier. We'd agreed to wait and re-do it as I was late for my period. I couldn't wait till he got home so ended up ringing him and shouting it down the phone!
With DC2 he was down stairs with DC1 having breakfast. I didn't tell him I was doing a test and ran downstairs and launched myself at him