A year Ttc, what now?

[ClaryFray]

I've always had, well for many years, a feeling that I'm infertile. I tried to concieve 4 years ago and failed, the relationship broke down as a result of stress. He's gone on to have a child a year after we split up so didn't take long at all.

I've now been Ttc for a year. This has resulted in no pregnancies at all not one. I've had scans, all come back normal. No PCOS. Partner has had sperm test and nothing wrong there. It's me. I know it is.

I have a Dr's app Monday to discuss it being a year without success. What happens next? Will I be refered? To who?

I know im not entitled to ivf on the NHS becauae I have one living child, so how do I come to terms with the fact at 29 I can't have another baby.

If youve already got one child then it's obvious that your fertile and can fall pregnant.
Relax and don't put too much pressure on yourself, that's probably why it's not working for you 💖

Wishing you luck! If you have a child already then you aren't infertile. Keep going!

I've been ttcing for a little while 9 months no pregnancies so far and never been been pregnant.

Your doctors should be able to do some test for you such as amh level etc

Sorry you’re at this point, it’s tough.

What you’re entitled to on the NHS differs from area to area. Where I live we get tests but no IVF as we’ve got DD. Where my friend lives down south they didn’t even get standard tests other than day 3/21 bloods and an SA. So don’t be surprised if your GP cannot do very much for you. It’s harsh but wanted you to be prepared. Maybe google your Trust and find out their guidelines so you’re prepared.

We’ve been ttc#2 and we’ve got the label of unexplained secondary infertility so whilst yes it’s positive that you have one child it isn’t a definite that you can therefore have a second.

Please ignore posters who tell you to relax - this isn't your fault and no amount of relaxing will get you pregnant. On the other hand sometimes it just takes time and 80% of people conceive within a year - 90% within two years - so keep trying! It's very positive you've been pregnant before.

Your GP will do basic tests for a reason but cannot offer you treatment if you have a child - you'll have to go private.

Have a browse of the infertility forum - lots of people who've been in your position.

Good luck